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  • It's a cultural problem and it requires cultural solutions.

    We need to value different things, and that's purposefully vague because it applies to so many aspects of our lives.

    I've recently been thinking of it as a 'war on modesty,' which is what we need to see value in in order to fight back against consumerism.

    Do more with less. Appreciate what we have. Those kinds of things.

    It's unfortunate that these basic suggestions could solve such major problems, but I believe that's how far we've strayed from the truth.

  • Patriarchy and capitalism go hand in hand. We are still saying the same thing.

    They are related, but not the same. We are not saying the same thing.

    You do not know what those words mean.

    Ironic, considering you seem to literally believe capitalism and patriarchy mean the same thing.

    You take it as patronizing because it would be silly for you to not know what that word means.

    I take it as patronizing because it is and I've dealt with your kind before.

    I am going to have to block you now, though, without reading the rest of your drivel.

    Re-read my previous comments if you have any further misunderstandings or still believe we are in agreement. We are not and you are being willfully ignorant if you think otherwise.

    You may have the last word. I can tell you're dying for it.

  • Not really. I'm referring to women enjoying the benefits they get from having others do the work for them.

    Trying to argue that they can't enjoy this without some overarching control is just reinforcing the idea that women can't think for themselves.

    Good job doing your part to reinforce the idea that women should be treated like children.

  • as you talk about how women are so baby brained that they can’t think.

    Saying it's an 'anti-feminist' talking point holds no water when we're describing reality. You're literally supporting my argument by saying that women can't rise above the expectations the patriarchy has put on them. They can't think for themselves.

    You're also supporting my notion that you refuse to acknowledge greed and consumerism as being the root cause of these issues because you're so distracted and invested in blaming "the patriarchy."

    It's a lot easier for women to blame "the patriarchy," because if they addressed their own greed then they would have to give something up. If all the blame is put on "the patriarchy," then women can continue to consume just as they always have and delude themselves into thinking they're not part of the problem.

    It’s just the women’s side of patriarchy.

    Now this is an interesting point to bring up, although it does reinforce my argument. Men are more likely to value autonomy, women are more likely to value homogeny. It's why I said that women have a harder time thinking for themselves than men and why they've been conditioned to operate as one unit.

    None of this is up for debate and you haven't disproved any of my points. Even if these ideas aren't acceptable in our social circles, it doesn't mean they don't describe reality.

    Stop trying to look good in front of your peers.

  • That’s not what I am saying. Women and men can rise above those expectations. It’s called feminism.

    No, it's not. It's called autonomy.

    “men good, women bad”

    Wrong. I never said nor implied anything like this.

    You described an aspect of patriarchy as it effects both women’s expectations of men and men’s expectations of women.

    It's an aspect of the patriarchy, but it stems from consumerism and greed.

    you use terms that accurately describe the ideologies at work rather than the group itself.

    Wrong. I'm telling you uncomfortable truths so you have to plug your ears and deny.

    Because to do so builds stereotypes

    No. Seeing their actions builds the stereotype. If they can't rise above other people's expectations, then it coincidentally reinforces the idea that they can't think for themselves.

    In your case, you are stuck in the male patriarchal false consciousness that is clouding your ability to see that we are saying the same thing.

    In your case, you're desperate to prove that "feminism is the solution and the patriarchy is the problem" when the real issue is greed and consumerism.

    We can just agree to disagree here. If you're going to be pretentious and patronizing by saying "I agree but I don't understand the words being used," then just re-read this comment.

  • complete free will

    Hyperbole.

    It's a spectrum, for sure. I wouldn't be who I am without the influence of others.

    That said, women are way more likely to go along with what the crowd (their peers) is doing than I am. If they disagree with the crowd, they are way less likely to put those disagreements into action than I am.

    They cannot think for themselves and it's encouraged by those who refuse to acknowledge it. It's not a problem unique to women, but they suffer from it more than men because women have been conditioned to operate as one unit.

  • It is disagreeing, though. You're saying that women can't rise above the expectations put on them by "the patriarchy." I agree that women, on average, cannot think for themselves.

    It's not the fault of the patriarchy that women like expensive things and are willing to reward males who buy them things with sex. Women themselves encourage this behavior.

    Trying to absolve them of any responsibility is just contributing to the culture of treating women like children.

  • You are right, but that is due to patriarchy creating the cultural expectations

    This is where we disagree, and it's not just the words that we use. Women are greedy, too. They like the nice things men buy them. They don't care about the true cost of consumerism because they've been conditioned to ignore it.

    It is women simply trying to meet their side of the expectation.

    This is why I agree with you insomuch as women aren't able to think for themselves. I don't put that expectation on them. People richer than us do. Even though I'm able to rise above their influence, the average person cannot. This goes doubly-so for women because women have been encouraged for generations to function as one entity as much as possible.

  • It's not their fault insomuch as they can't think for themselves, I'll agree with you there.

    But the agreement stops when you blame the patriarchy over consumerism. No, this generation has been convinced to sell itself out to the lowest bidder. Average women are proud consumers that want to live like instagram models. Any kind of modesty is shunned in their social circles. It's drowned out by "look at this new thing I bought! Please praise me for spending money!"

    The sex speaks for itself. Men have a ridiculously easy time getting laid if they have money, even if they're pieces of shit in every other way.

  • Lemmy Support @lemmy.ml
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    How do I share a post or comment to someone on another instance so they can view it from their account?

    If I want to share a post with someone from another instance, it looks like I have 2 options:

    1. I can share how my instance links to the post, which is the little link symbol.
    2. Or I can click the federated symbol and that apparently shares a link from the poster's instance.

    In both cases, whoever I share the link with is unable to view that post from their account if they're on another instance. Is there a way to alleviate this?

    Pokémon @lemmy.ml
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    What do you think the hardest core pokemon games are? Which are the easiest?

    Music @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Ulrich Schnauss- Blumenthal

    196 @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    This is probably my favorite community to block.

    So glad the feature exists.

    guitars @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Why do active pickups require 9v batteries instead of some other kind of battery like AA?

    Games @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Metal Gear Rising is seriously overrated

    Only about 6 hours of campaign and it's a shell of what was demoed.

    Linux @lemmy.ml
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Are there any good voice changer programs?

    Games @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Games Done Quick from home is a waste of time

    Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Why are all gamblers pieces of shit?

    I'm not referring to the people who gamble once in a blue moon. I'm talking about those who gamble habitually.

    How come they're all such garbage people, with legitimately no exceptions? Take a look at any high-stakes poker table and everyone except maybe the dealer is a de-facto scumbag.

    networking @sh.itjust.works
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    How do I listen for HTTP requests from the internet?

    I've been able to set up sending and listening to http requests locally using 127.0.0.1:8000. I want to try doing it using the internet now.

    I have a VPN with port forwarding enabled, but sending requests to that IP address and port does not yield a response like it did when doing it locally.

    Can anyone clarify which address I should be listening on in order to receive http requests from the internet? I tried 0.0.0.0 and a few inet addresses from ip add, but none of them work.

    Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Does Lemmy support user flair? Edit: Why was this post locked?

    On Reddit, some subreddits allowed users to add a title next to their name called 'flair.'

    Is there anything like this on Lemmy?

    Godot @programming.dev
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Does Godot accept cryptocurrency donations?

    Edit: After seeing the bandwagon, dogpiling reaction from the community for simply trying to donate, I wont bother donating to this project even if they support cryptocurrencies.

    Good job, assholes.

    Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Are there any Chinese federated instances?

    Seems like the fediverse would be a good way for Chinese citizens to get around censorship.

    Does anyone know if they are using it?

    Linux @lemmy.ml
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Is there an easy way to rebind the side buttons of a mouse to Page Up and Page Down on KDE?

    Food and Cooking @beehaw.org
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    What's up with the price of fruit!?

    I'm trying to add more fruit to my diet, but I'm having trouble finding good deals.

    Grapes, for example, are $6 per bag of 2.25lbs (453~ 906 grams). That would be mostly acceptable, only I can't eat that many grapes before they go bad.

    I then saw pears, and noticed they were ~$1.30 each. That's a crazy price to be paying when I'm going to be eating an entire pear with my meal. It becomes the most expensive part by a massive margin, and it's not even meat!

    So, what really set me off was seeing apples, apples for $1. One. Dollar. Per. Apple. That's insane. It's unacceptable. It should not be the case.

    So I ask, what is going on? Is this the result of ensuring people will pay the absolute maximum they're willing to, regardless of what something costs to produce? Is this the result of that occurring at every step of the way in all of our lives, including for apple farmers?

    Is there something else? Is there a legitimate, not-passing-a-bunch-of-money-around-at-the-top reason for w

    Food and Cooking @beehaw.org
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Why are pineapples hard to eat?

    It's my understanding that fruits typically are made to be consumed, in the sense that it benefits the evolution of the plant. An animal eats the fruit and perhaps some seeds along with it, the seeds don't get digested and end up in soil somewhere further than the plant could spread on them on its own.

    How do pineapples fall into this mix? They're practically impossible to eat without tools, and it looks like it's by design. It also bothers me that they're not as easy to eat as apples.

    How would this be beneficial to the evolution of the species?

    Cars - For Car Enthusiasts @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Are there any cars that can comfortably accommodate a tall person sleeping in it? (6'4" / 193cm)

    I want to be able to sleep in my next car, and not have it be a miserable experience.

    Is there anything you can suggest to me that will suit someone who is 6'4" or 193 cm?

    I'm not very familiar with cars, so anything that might seem obvious to you I could be overlooking.

    I'm also not interested in style, at all. I only want functionality/reliability (I want it to work, bells and whistles don't matter) and low prices.

    Firefox @lemmy.ml
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    How do we restore the old dropdown menu in the address bar?

    Once upon a time, we could click an arrow in the address bar and see a list of our most visited sites.

    How do we restore that functionality? Unlike the average modern internet user, I actually use more than just 5 sites pretty frequently.

    Before "designers" were unleashed onto the world, we had the ability to scroll the list in the address bar so we rarely if ever have to type when it's a site we frequently visit.

    Fast-forward to 10 years ago, and the hip/cool thing was apparently to remove as much functionality as possible if a certain competing browser did not support it.

    I would like to move away from this "trend" of having to remember and type things out when in the past we had computers to do it for us.

    In that effort, how can I restore the "old" (but better!) functionality of the firefox address bar? I don't need to see "recent searches," as I've legitimately never clicked on any of them. I just want the plain, simple, straightforward, functional dropdown menu back that

    techsupport @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Where can I buy M2 x L11.5 screws?

    I’m trying to repair my Lenovo Ideapad Gaming 3 laptop, model 15ACH6. The plastic is cracked/broken at both hinges, so I am replacing the “upper case.”

    The manual says I need screws of certain sizes. One of these sizes is M2 x L11.5 which I can’t seem to find at any major online retailer. I’m not a screw-expert, so maybe I’m looking in the wrong spot or entering the wrong information.

    All the screw sets I’m seeing appear to leave out the 11.5 screws.

    Does anyone know where to find these?

    It’s bad enough that I have to fix what shouldn’t be broken in the first place, but to add insult to injury the brilliant engineers at Lenovo decided to use extremely hard to find screws. Couldn’t they have just added that extra .5 whatever to the upper case so it doesn’t break in the first place? I’d really rather have a thicker laptop than one that breaks in this extremely inconvenient and preventable manner. Planned obsolescence is alive and well.

    Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    john89 @lemmy.ca

    Are there any lemmy communities dedicated to posting gore?