Interesting! If I could literally only pick one thing (well one combo I guess) I'd 100% go for toothpaste and toothbrush! I feel ok skipping a shower or a few, but not brushing my teeth every day feels horrible to me!
But yeah I totally makes sense to keep it pretty variable depending on where you're going.
Perfectly valid that you'd rather not be autistic! But those of us who wouldn't want our autism removed aren't secretly using that as a cope or deluding ourselves that it's a super power. Personally, I just feel like it's inseparable from my personality and who I am at the core of my being. I wouldn't want to not be autistic kinda the same way I wouldn't want to not be trans. Sure, it'd be easier to be neurotypical, and it'd be easier to be cis. But I wouldn't be me if I were, y'know?
Again, you're valid in wanting to be neurotypical, but those of us who don't want that are valid, too.
Same and same. Everything being re readable makes me nervous and awkward. Chat is for ppl I feel comfortable around.
Just another little option for cologne: can you just fill some of the stuff you usually use into a smaller bottle? That's what I do with shampoo. Thinking about it, I should do it with face wash, too! Could buy a travel sized bottle once and then keep refilling that, or could just buy a small empty bottle.
The big fallacy with 'can just conform to cis gender norm' is that it doesn't separate us from binary trans ppl at all. Everyone could technically deny their transness and go with cis normativism. But that's emotionally and psychologically damaging or even impossible. At the very least it's preferable to live as your true gender. I don't get why that should be different for binary and non binary trans people.
What's the point of having your house be unattached if you're not going to have a green space? Even a shared one.

What do you take when travelling?
I used to be super lazy and not take anything. Just lived with the tight feeling of my face after washing it with shower soap. The only cosmetics I'd take were always deodorant, tooth paste, tooth brush, shower soap. Hair was washed with the shower soap, too.
These days I take proper face wash, my moisturiser, sun screen (I've never gotten a sun burn, so I used to not be diligent about this), floss, and, if it's more than like 3-4 days, shampoo.
If it's for a fancy event like a wedding, I'll bring conditioner and the small number of makeup products I'm going to wear (eyeliner and/or lipstick. I don't do base and have black lashes and eyebrows).
The only cosmetics i usually use that I'm not bringing: (sometimes) conditioner, retinol serum, BHA peel, the clay I use for clay masks and cuticle oil. I use hand cream, but only when I teach, because the chalk dries my out like nobody's business. So I keep the cream at work. I do keep the cuticle oil, retinol and bha at my partner's plac
I love to get super cute to rot. Like I don't have to worry about anyone reading me as the wrong gender (I'm nb), I can wear alllll the makeup. I wash it off after like two hours when the sensory issues hit, but still.
But I do look forward to it. Until the day it's supposed to happen, that is.
Funnily enough, calculator is one of the few proprietary apps I've paid for and still happily lose. Wolfram alpha just does many things that other calculators don't.
Same here, and those Aldi cucumbers are like 1,50€ or a little more.
I'm from there and didn't know this wasn't a global thing haha. Partner and I have two blankets but usually fall asleep under the same one. If someone gets too hot they just take the other blanket.
It's crazy to me that a hotel would only provide one duvet, never seen that. What if you're travelling with a friend and the line is just between sharing a bed and sharing a blanket?
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Genuinely I'm sometimes wondering if this behavior of annoying everyone in public with your music or game or call or whatever is just ignorant, attention seeking, or straight up trying to provoke and get a reaction out of people
I drink my coffee while I brush my teeth in the shower. Brushing right after eating isn't great for your teeth, so you should achieve efficiency by doing them at the same time.
I've been a guest in households who just don't flush after peeing. Just after shitting. They closed the lid so it doesn't smell. We're not in an arid climate either.
I've peed in the shower while also brushing my teeth before. Triple efficiency.
To this day I don't understand this. My therapist used to ask this so many times and every time I was like:?? In my brain???? Where thoughts and feelings live???????
Can someone explain?
Partner and I are the same! They begrudgingly do the dishes while I absolutely loathe them, and vice versa with the laundry.
The key to a successful relationship is to have one partner that is sort of ok with doing the laundry and one partner that is sort of ok with doing the dishes.
Love when someone in a semi stressful appointment asks if you want water, and then they give you this teensy itsy bitsy thimble ass glass and you have to put all you focus into not making a weird impression by drinking that in one gulp, because if anything, it's less than your usual gulp size
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Some do. Sexuality isn't a choice. Nobody requires sex itself, though.
Converting moped to electric?
Hi there! I've tried researching this myself, but found myself overwhelmed because I'm simply not knowledgable enough.
I've got a 20 year old 50cc vespa. I got this idea in my head that I should convert it to electric, since getting a new vehicle has such a huge environmental impact. The battery is on its last legs, and I'm not so sure about the engine either, and I was thinking I'd convert instead of replacing the existing parts. I'd like to keep it at a similar power bc that way, people who don't have a motorcycle license could legally drive it, too. (If they have a car license.)
Has anyone done anything like this or has some other pointers?
TIA!

Not to mention the stigma, especially from unrelated doctors who see the med in your file.


A red button. Image says: 'Would you press the button?' [results of pressing the button:] there exists a pill that makes your disability a LOT less debilitating BUT it's near-impossible to get because the non-disabled enjoy taking the pill for fun and the government doesn't want them to.

Many discussions people have started with me have come down to this


I know, not all omnis. But this is based on personal experience.

Is there any way to get ableists to just google 'hypotension'?


Two part meme. Part one is a crying young person who looks like they're desperate to get someone to understand something. Caption: 'Me explaining why I can walk fast and run but can't stand or walk slowly well'. Part two is a super annoyed looking, slightly older person. Caption: 'people still assuming I'm lying out of laziness'.

Recycling question!
I'm aware that I, the consumer, won't change the world and that we need structural change.
Still, I've been wondering. I've come to learn that plastic recycling is largely a myth/scam, but what about glass and metal recycling? Also, what happens to the plastic coating on metal during recycling?
TIA

How people react when they see me work.


I regret nothing. Say what you want.
Edit: I just saw the two typos. If you find them, you're welcome to keep them.

When it rains


Edit: I love this community so much, thank you all for trying to help!

Secret to looking young? Acne 💅
For real. When I can get my skin to clear up, people guess my age accurately. When I have a breakout, I get carded for beer, which is 16+. I'm 27.
Looking young isn't the be all, end all imo. I prefer to look my age. As I get wiser and more experienced and know myself better, I develop white hairs and fine lines and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Can anyone recommend Google Scholar alternatives?
I'm using DDG or searx for all my casual searching, but haven't been able to find a good search engine for scholarly articles specifically. Scrolling through pages upon pages of forum posts and educational stuff for teens/kids is unfortunately too time consuming when I'm specifically looking for research papers. I'd also need to be filtering by year of publication since I need to know what's currently going on in my field, not what was going on 30 years ago.
TIA!

Does anyone else have this weird quirk where you prefer phonecalls over emails?
Something about there being a record of what I said that can be checked and rechecked as many times as wanted gives me mad anxiety. Like they can analyse just how weird I talk. With a phonecall, all that remains is memory, and that makes people way more inclined to give me the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes I take half a day considering just how to address and sign an email. There's such intricate expectations there and no cues from them that would allow me to adjust as needed. It's just guessing with zero clues. At least when I get an immediate response to anything I say I can adjust as I go and kind of match their tone.
Don't get me wrong, I find calls stressful too, but at least the stressing is over when it's done. It's more of a ripping the band-aid off kind of stress. The barrier of actually doing it is higher, but at least i can't really spend all day putting my energy into it as I do with an email.

Chlorine water and skimcare
Hello skincare friends! Do any of you swim regularly?
I'm wondering how to synchronize my twice-weekly swimming sessions with my skincare routine. Chlorine is quite drying and can cause breakouts.
I usually do: am: Wash with water-sunscreen pm: wash with cleanser, retinol, moisturise (5 times a week) wash with cleanser, bha, rinse, moisturise (other 2 days)
How would you coordinate this with swimming? No bha on the swim days to avoid drying out too much? No retinol either to avoid breakouts?
I have noticed that my skin has been feeling more tight pretty much every day since I've started swimming.
If anyone has additional advice on preventing ear infections in eczema filled ears (ie the skin in the outer ear canal has eczema) when swimming, let me know!
TIA!

A specialist I regularly see says the symptoms I'm describing are worse than my blood work would suggest, so she recommends I see an internist to figure out what else is wrong!


I see her every 2-3 weeks at the moment. I only mentioned the symptoms* that I know can be related to the disease I'm seeing her for. They apparently shouldn't be near as bad, according to the results of my blood test (she usually calls me a few hours to a day after the appointment to tell me the results). So now I have yet another health issue to figure out, yay!
Anyone willing to bet whether I'll be diagnosed as 'stressed' or 'skinny young woman' this time? Those were my diagnoses plenty of times when I described those symptoms. I'm not even a woman, so it comes with a little side dish of dysphoria.
*Light headedness and fainting to the point I don't feel safe standing too long (though walking is fine), extreme night sweats, very high heart rate and very low blood pressure

Knee pain. How long should I take it easy or take a break?
Training routine: 8k/50min once a week, 1-2 (usually 1) slower runs of 3k-ish.
Always at least 1 day rest, where I sometimes do light upper body workouts, sometimes nothing.
Longer run sometimes replaced by an alpine hike of a few hours. Walking of at least 3k, often more, almost daily. I've been doing the latter for years, been running somewhat consistently for ~8months.
Participating in a 10k in May.
I'm noticing some pain behind the upper edge of my patellae that tends to start around the middle or end of my longer runs and after a little while of hiking uphill. Since I'm pretty sure it's not muscle pain, I don't want to just push through it. Do I need to take a complete break from running? Do I even need to take a break from walking? If so, for how long? Or is it going to be enough to reduce mileage a bit? Do I need to start cross training more at this level already?
Thank you in advance!
Edit: just remembered, first time I felt it was during a 30k flat hike a few weeks

Beginner(ish) question!
Please remove or tell me to delete if this isn't allowed!
I've been dual booting Ubuntu and Windows for a good few years now. I keep the windows around for gaming, because, ahem, I don't like giving EA, among others, money. I know it's not a problem to play most of the games I've paid for on Linux, but does anyone have experience with playing games on Linux that you've, somehow, obtained for free? And keeping them updated, too?
I'm still going to dual boot because keeping my games separate from my work is a decent adhd strategy for me, so I'm open to gaming friendly OS suggestions as well!

Im on meds!
It's been pretty much exactly 20 years since a psychologist first suspected I have adhd. I finally got a Ritalin. The mixture of grief and elation I'm feeling is indescribable. I was robbed of so, so much in my teens and early-mid twenties, but I can finally begin to live my life.
Story if you want it: my mum took me to a child psychologist when I was 7 to get an opinion of whether it'd be a good idea that a skip a grade. I only know this because I overheard her telling it to friends as a funny story, and going like hahaha as if MY child is disabled/r-slur (where I live, people use disabled as a derogative, both for the disabled and as a generic one. Similar to how some people say gay as an insult. So, idk an accurate translation, it's inbetween). This was when I was maybe 12? I googled (at school, didn't have my own PC) and more or less concluded I have adhd, and that it wouldn't be safe or worthwhile to bring it up with mum.
As soon as I moved out (at about 19), I went to my GP a

Attempted a space design


What do you think? Ccw

How long until running stops sucking?
I apologize for how negative that sounds! It's been 3 months. I unfortunately can't be as consistent as I'd like because of chronic utis. I currently go about 8-10 km/h for 20 mins at a time, 2-3 times a week when I'm healthy. I keep at it because I've noticed a boost in my general energy and mood, but I hate pretty much every second of actually running. I read that that's normal as you start out, especially if you start from zero like I did. But I've also read you eventually start to tolerate and then later enjoy it. How long did it take for you to get to that point?
Edit: 5 month update on case someone stumbles across this. My progress is slow, due to frequent breaks due to my frequent colds and UTIs. I'm at 30min 5k. Running still sucks, in part, but it also feels...powerful? I've learned to pace myself and run slower, so I'm not all spent after 10 mins. It's difficult, but I think running too fast really was the biggest problem. Now what I feel during a run is a mix of 'ughgh I

It ain't perfect but I'm happy with my first try (at least in a decade) at anything other than one colour per nail


This would've been much easier with tape but I didn't have any lol

Stopped biting my nails with the help of nail polish


A polished nail feels differently in my mouth, which is enough to make me realize I'm doing it and then to stop myself. Here's my current mani vs one of my first