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Amy

@ lwhjp @piefed.blahaj.zone

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Hi, I’m Amy.

✨ New 🏳️‍⚧️ improved ♀️ version 👩‍❤️‍👩 out 🏳️‍🌈 now! 🎊

I live in Japan. Talk to me about Haskell, Scheme, and Linux.

日本語も通じます。

  • how do I stop dropping stuff?

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  • Oh yeah, that's a thing. You'll get used to it. My guess is that it's a combination of reduced muscle strength combined with thinner and smoother skin.

    For dryness, learn to love hand cream (and moisturizer in general for your whole body). I like the Nivea stuff in the blue tube.

    As for dropping stuff, I've learned to avoid relying on friction to hold things spiderman-style and instead support them from below.

  • I need help... (I feel like I'm transphobic) (copied from lgbtq+ instance)

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  • I see plenty of OCD here but no transphobia. You're OK <3

    If you say you're non-binary, you are. I'll believe you. And hopefully everyone else here will too.

    And if it turns out later that you're not, that's cool too.

    And if you were doubly mistaken and you actually are? No problem. We can go on as long as you like, and you're not harming anybody.

  • Guess I have boobs now

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  • Heh, heh... boobs...

    That's pretty quick to be visible under clothes, though. Congratulations, I guess? :3

    I started with tube tops to as a kind of pseudo-binder, then went to padded sports bras when the pointies were visible even through that. At which point it was kind of impossible to hide that something was going on... and now at last I'm able to wear a proper underwire bra and show off a bit <3

  • My SRS application just got approved by my health insurance

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  • Yay! That's awesome <3

  • How's your week been?

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  • I guess this won't be on anyone's radar who isn't in Japan, but I saw the new "This Is I" on Netflix. I was pretty apprehensive going in, but it turned out to be IMHO a compassionate treatment of the subject matter.

    It could be very triggering though, so be careful if you're struggling with dysphoria or transphobia.

  • Wednesday wins... what's gone right recently?

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  • I got bottom surgery scheduled for next September! AAAHHH!!!

  • The Button

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  • Who wouldn’t like that?

    Surprisingly, an awful lot of men :3 One other factor to consider is how often you think about having a female body. An occasional "heh, that might be cool for a day" when you watch a gender-bending anime, or whenever your mind wanders?

    A good way to confront your internalized phobias and biases is to ask yourself, if being a woman sounds good, why haven't you transitioned already?

    A couple of answers I hear a lot from trans-questioning people are:

    • "I'm ok with being a man." ⇨ Does "ok" really mean "ok", or is it perhaps "I don't like it, but it's all I know" (could be repressed dysphoria).
    • "Being born a woman would be OK, but I wouldn't want to be a trans woman" ⇨ This could be internalized transphobia presenting as a fear of not passing.
    • "I don't feel like a woman" ⇨ nobody "feels like" their gender, but you know who wants to be a woman? Women.
    • "I'm worried about what family/friends/society would say" ⇨ in other words, I want to transition but other people don't want me to.

  • How's your week been?

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  • I have a cis woman friend who's going through menopause, and often complains about symptoms.

    Her: Is there nothing I can do about this?Other friend (cis woman, on HRT for menopause) + me (trans woman, on HRT for girl): ESTROGEN!Her: Yeah, but... that's kind of a big step...

    It's not just trans people who are scared to commit, y'all.

  • Would you rather live somewhere cosy and quiet or busy and buzzing?

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  • Cosy and quiet, for sure. But close enough to the busy and buzzing spot that I don't have to worry about getting a hotel when I go out.

  • rate my fit!

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  • Nice! Monochrome with a texture contrast is cool. A belt or waistband might work well with it too.

  • HRT just released some new Dysphoria I guess.

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  • Yeah, it sucks missing out on the childhood you wanted. But there's no reason you can't do the things now! I know people sometimes look down on the "baby trans" phase, but I don't think it's a bad thing. I love going out in a ridiculous outfit and too much makeup. I even got scolded for wearing a skirt that was too short :3

    It's worth putting in the effort to make friends with more women locally, too. HRT will make it progressively easier as your appearance changes.

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Amy @piefed.blahaj.zone

    What has surprised you about transitioning?

  • dyed my hair!!! :3

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  • Niiice :3

  • HRT is great. (for me. and it's a bit scary. for me.)

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  • HRT is great. (for me. and it's a bit scary. for me.)

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  • Yay, hormones!

    Boobs for me were both faster and slower than I expected. I got buds pretty quickly, and I soon had to be careful what I wore to keep the pointies hidden, but it was about six months before I felt a bra wasn't optional any more. And then it was a very long wait before I got to "ok, these definitely look like boobs now". Still hoping for some more volume in the coming years.

    Oh, and voice: yeah, I'd get started ASAP. I switched to trying to do a fem voice full-time pretty much immediately, and it was closer to a year before I was reasonably happy with my voice. (It was passable after maybe six months though). It will massively help you pass as a woman, and helped my dysphoria a lot.

  • A Video About Transitioning. by sarah zedig

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  • Wow, that was something. There are things in there that I don't really relate to, for which I'm thankful. I guess my response to the self-doubting voice is usually "yeah, this might all be a huge mistake. So what? yolol"

    But that section on looking back at the kid I supposedly was, and not feeling any connection to them; not really knowing how I managed to get this far, seeing the calendar skip from decade to decade... yeah, I felt that. "I didn't want to live until I came out": ain't that the truth.

  • How do you come out to people?

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  • For me, "I go by

    <name>

    now" was enough, since I don't like to make a big thing of it. Usually my appearance is enough to get the message across, but if I need to my usual lines are either "I've joined the girls' team" or "I gave up being a man".

  • Being myself, even though it's scary

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  • Woah, you're gorgeous! Keep on being yourself <3

  • About my first step experience.

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  • Yes, that's exactly what I felt too: peace. I'd been living with feelings of "something's missing/wrong" and "if only" that got stronger and stronger until I finally figured it out, then... silence. Just regular old me.

    I was always curious what it "feels like" to be a girl, but then I realized that (presumably) everyone is "just me", going through their lives. And since I was apparently a girl (without knowing it at first), that means I already know what it feels like: it's how I feel.

    I still struggle at times to honestly accept myself as a woman. Sure, I want to be one, and (most of) the people around me accept me as one, but there's still that little voice that says "you're faking it." And quelling that voice is, for me, the hardest part of transitioning.

  • The 40 Year Egg Thinks She Wants to Finally Hatch

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  • Hi there! My egg cracked at 39, and I was also extremely worried about how things would turn out. But I also knew that I had no real choice: it was transition or bust.

    Think about how you'd feel growing old as a man. Is a little less upheaval worth giving up your dream?

    Some of the things I worried would happen if I transitioned did happen: turns out I'm not too bothered. Most of the things didn't happen. A lot of really awesome things that I didn't think of did happen.

  • Trans Joy @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Amy @piefed.blahaj.zone

    Let's go, transbians!

  • Trans Joy @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Amy @piefed.blahaj.zone

    Well if nobody else is going to post :3

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Amy @piefed.blahaj.zone

    First attempt at gradient nails

  • Trans Joy @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Amy @piefed.blahaj.zone

    I had no idea my hair was this curly

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Amy @piefed.blahaj.zone

    I made BIR-style vindaloo 👩🏼‍🍳

  • Trans Memes @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Amy @piefed.blahaj.zone
    Transfem

    Success through failure