Men in Black 1997

He's the worm guy.

Early 30s now. I've been on this path since I was 18, so I guess I'd be happy to hear that I stuck with it. I'd probably also be disappointed to hear that I'm actually kind of bad at it.

Autism presents very differently from one person to the next. Most of the literature so far has been on young boys, so there's a very poor understanding among most mental health professionals and the general population on how it looks in adult men, let alone women. On top of that, women tend to be much better at hiding it.

As for coping mechanisms, I can't give specific examples since, as you say, everyone is different. This is especially true for autism since there's such a wide range of special interests, sensory sensitivities/preferences, etc. that you can easily find two people where the good and bad categories are complete opposites. You'll often hear advice such as "engage in your special interest" (assuming one exists), "stick to your comfort foods", or "minimize masking". These are very broad suggestions, but it's the best we can give. There's a lot of work involved in figuring out what that means for you. For sensory preferences, there are resources online that list different things to consider. Look up "sensory preferences checklist" to find them. For masking, you'll have to learn what is and isn't masking. That involves understanding how non-autistic people think, what they're capable of doing without thinking, then comparing it against the amount of effort you put into doing the same thing. For example, neurotypicals don't need to think about what facial expressions to make because their faces just naturally do the thing in accordance to their emotional state. If you find that you need to consciously think about what face to make based on how you feel, then that's masking and would be a contributing factor to the constant exhaustion.

As someone who's been going through what I believe to be autistic burnout for many years now, this third hand description of her behaviour feels very similar that what my own experience probably looks like from the outside.

Needing a lot of extra sleep is one of the symptoms. Depression, anxiety and being generally in a bad mood often also comes with burnout. She's putting no effort into events or activities, possibly because she doesn't want those activities or events in the first place due to the energy drain. Not knowing how you feel (and just bad interoception in general) is a very common trait of autism. You mentioned in a comment that she's "quiet and shy", which is another point towards the autism hypothesis.

Keep in mind that this is based on my own experience only. There isn't enough information to know if your friend is going through the same thing or not. Assuming she is, the solution is probably to work on that interoception and figuring out how different activities/events affect your energy levels. There's a good chance that if you had all your coping mechanisms figured out before entering the relationship, they don't work anymore after because some things clash with the expectations of the relationship. For many of them, you probably wouldn't even know they were coping mechanisms to begin with. They were things you just did because you prefer it that way and had no idea how bad things can get if you didn't. So part of the work is in figuring out which of your habits are coping mechanisms.

They use the same symbols, but they're not bitwise operators anymore.

I don't think your preference for cold water had anything to do with being warm-blooded. I grew up having mostly warm/hot water and still prefer it that way to this day because it's what I'm used to. I think the majority of Chinese people would tell you the same.

This is a huge mess of an article. They talk about how student data should not be given out to corporations who profit from this data, parents not believing the government when they say that all data is kept on Canadian servers, concerns about Google's role in providing Chromebooks to students, mentioning the existence of collaborative projects between Mila (original developers of this risk analysis project) and Google, criticisms of generative AI in art, and a bunch of other stuff. Most importantly, they don't say anything about how any of this is supposed to be related to each other. So I get the impression that the conclusion they want the reader to draw from this is that the Quebec government is giving out student data to OpenAI or Google to process for them, but they can't outright say that because there's no evidence to support it.

And then what? At the end of the day, unless you're running the experiments yourself, you're still putting your trust in another group of experts. Either you trust that they really did what they said they did and saw what they said they saw, or you trust another group to draw the correct conclusions from a collection of studies and what they know about the topic.

The unfortunate reality is that most people don't have the skills required to critically read scientific literature.