Apologies in advance for the wall of text. This is a bit of an involved story, but I suck at editing. Thanks in advance for reading the whole thing.

54M here. My long-standing marriage split up in 2019, for several reasons; one of the main reasons was the fact that the majority of our marriage was largely sexless. I decided at that time that I was not interested in another long-term monogamous relationship, nor one that did not include a sexual component. I’ve managed to have a few relationships since then, of varying lengths and levels of commitment.

Back in July I matched with a woman on Tinder. She identified as ENM and was kink-curious, like me. We hit it off right away. Had our first date a few days later, which culminated in some great sex. We spent a lot of the summer together, doing various things (simple hangouts, traditional dates, straight-up hookups, sleepovers). Along the way I sort of caught feelings a little bit, but I never pushed for anything beyond what we had in th