My partner's partner,

Drives me crazy,

Whirlwind of need,

Driving in and driving out,

Driving me in, driving me out.

I don't know what to do about,

About this partner,

Breath in, breathe out,

Stick it out.

So anyone here if you ever get a new partner make sure to go through their hobbies and more. This could possibly lead to some really badass or cute name. For example I recently just got a new wife last night. That is a Blacksmith and my mind instantly went back to a Reddit story I saw. It would take 2.2k(around the exact num) full grown men to extract enough metal to make a blade. So then I named her, Forfalsker av blod or Forger of Blood. IMO this is like the most badass name ever though yeah this is what I meant. Just make sure there’s no opportunities to give a name that is badass or something.

PS it’s funny the name makes her sound so different. As she is actually probably one of the sweetest and most gentle out of our poly.

So I’m real confused at why people hate big polyamorous relationships? Like it confuses me because isn’t the basis of being poly. Loving others and loving multiple people. Giving dedication to multiple people? Which it never specified on what type of group or how big of a group. So where does the hate of big polys come from?

If anyone can explain this please. Since this is not the first time I’ve got hate for my poly. Which actually normally I ether instantly get banned from places for asking questions or I get like 100s of downvotes. Though everyone just keeps their mouths shut and I’ve never really asked before but it just doesn’t make sense. Why is adding people to a poly to protect and love them. To give them the best life possible. With no abuse and no manipulation. To give others the happiness it’s hard for me to feel. A bad thing like why does the size of the poly or how we’re together make any difference. It’s just love isn’t it? Also it’s completely legal? So where is the is

So for anyone who calls their partners honourifics and or pet names, what are some you’d suggest? I have 49 partners and I’m starting to run out of actual pet names. Now I just normally figure out their hobbies in another language and piece together something. Though I’ll add a list of names already taken below! Also thank you for any help.

Master (Lady) Daddy (Male) Alpha/senpai (Lady) Mommy (Lady) Teddy bear (Lady) King (Male) Puppy (Male) Pebble (Lady) Sire (Male) Angel (Male) Goddess (Lady) Flower (Lady aka my slave wife one of my three queens) Toy (Male) Bug (Lady) Rose (Male) Queen (Lady) Boss (Male) Ocki (Male) Whore (Male) Slave (Lady) Star (Lady) Doll (Lady) Cub (Lady) Kit (Lady) Molly (Lady) Void (Male) Shadow (Lady) Raven (Lady) Fire (Male) Nixie (Male) Pup (Male) Pyre (Lady) Mor (Lady) Isä (Male) Lom (Male) Bear (Male) Lord (Male) Villman (Male) Sjøengel (Lady) Fae (Queen 😫) Farget Kunstner (thinking of changing) (Lady) Grønn Lek (Male) Høst (Male) Vinge (Male)

So I’ve talked to so many people. Most people see a polyamorous relationship as a separate dating scene or small group 3-4. Though I just call em polys and specify later. For me we have came up a with a system called “Closed Poly”. Meaning everyone in the group is with everyone and if we wish to add a new member, Everyone has to agree.

Then we had to add another tier to the poly because I started adding siblings and parents of the other partners. So we had where everyone was with each. Then the blood relations was not together of course separated by polys. Though the blood relations are with everyone else but their relation. Currently 48 people.

My extended polycule is vast(as they tend to be), but the core "family unit" of us consists of around 5-7 people. In that group, we're fairly kitchen table, and are planning to move in together this year. (Yippee!!)

Recently we started sharing services here and there. Google play games family accounts, and AI Chat subscriptions.

What other services are out there that you've shared with family and/or polycule members to save on money?

I dont like the text. Self control and love dont mix that well (for me). Also telling people they should not be polyamorous as if thats a choice for everybody is just not how that works for everybody.

Let me tell you, if you can’t exercise self-control, then there’s no way you should be polyamorous. All that lies down that path is pain, bad behavior, heartache, and disappointment.

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cross-posted from: https://slrpnk.net/post/4734923

Like many contemporary anarchists, many anarchists of the 19th and 20th centuries maintained relationships with multiple romantic partners, or were involved with partners who did. Just as it does today, this often precipitated gossip, heartache, jealousy, and interminable emotional processing. A complete history of anarchist polyamory drama would be nearly as ambitious as a comprehensive history of the anarchist movement itself. Here, we’ve limited ourselves to a few poignant anecdotes from the lives of a handful of classical anarchists.

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Me, my partner, and their partner, are putting together a band. Me on guitar, my partner on bass, and my meta on drums and keys.

I've had a lot of original music for quite a while and it's such a pleasure to be able to share it with these two people that are so important to me and watch my songs evolve.

Last night I slept over at their place and woke up early unable to get back to sleep because I'm so excited to play more.

Heck ye :)

Apologies in advance for the wall of text. This is a bit of an involved story, but I suck at editing. Thanks in advance for reading the whole thing.

54M here. My long-standing marriage split up in 2019, for several reasons; one of the main reasons was the fact that the majority of our marriage was largely sexless. I decided at that time that I was not interested in another long-term monogamous relationship, nor one that did not include a sexual component. I’ve managed to have a few relationships since then, of varying lengths and levels of commitment.

Back in July I matched with a woman on Tinder. She identified as ENM and was kink-curious, like me. We hit it off right away. Had our first date a few days later, which culminated in some great sex. We spent a lot of the summer together, doing various things (simple hangouts, traditional dates, straight-up hookups, sleepovers). Along the way I sort of caught feelings a little bit, but I never pushed for anything beyond what we had in th

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A while ago I noticed a problem in my polyamorous social circles, namely that some of the guys just are not doing that well, in terms of finding partners, dating, and generally succeeding at nonmonogamy. In particular, the guys who are new to nonmonogamy seem to make a lot of blunders. Sometimes these are spectacular and result in those guys giving up and going back to monogamy, but other times they seem to take the form of a steady failure to date, or a quickly cycling through relationships. Of course, there are plenty of men who take well to nonmonogamy (myself included), espcially those who have been doing it for a long time. That said, longevity is no guarantee of success – some of the frustrated guys at my recent class on this subject had been polyamorous for over a decade but could still not get their groove on. My hope with the discussions below is that they will help other guys hopscotch past a lot of the conceptual traps that

I'm in the market for books that normalize poly parenting. I have the Red Stroller for normalizing different family types (eg. single parent, gay, interracial).

My child's other parent (separated) is very conservative and my family is too. I'm not trying to "push" poly, but prepare my kid mentally/emotionally if people say shit about me. I still have several years before I would need to come out.

I called some people I'm seeing partners, but got scolded by a friend because I guess partner means a relationship that's more "serious". My friend suggested calling them lovers.

I'm emotionally involved with all my people and I care about them. I just get an ick from labels and relationship ladders (abusive family).

I'm looking for a word that's unassuming, but clearly says "I'm not single" so I can easily be honest with monogamous people.

Any suggestions? Lover sounds a little too much like cheating.

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I posted this because I liked the open nature of the video, that it includes opinions from different perspectives and because I enjoy Mainely Mandys content.

My personal take: I see no reason to police someones queer identity, so if someone says they are queer then they are queer to me.

Hi all,

I've been through a rough year. I've had to rebuild myself from ground up and now that I'm back and looking at what comes next, I'm feeling scared and uncertain. I could really use some kind words or to hear about the experiences of someone else who's gone through the same. I'd even welcome advice, if you feel like there's something I should know.

Here's a bit about me.

In the spring of last year, I was a husband and a dad 5 years into a fairly typical marriage. We had recently experienced a miscarriage and her mom had recently moved in with us due to a brain injury. Things were stressful.

My wife re-connected with an ex who lives far away and was at that time going through a divorce. They ended up engaging in long distance cheating. She told me that thing got out of hand and she assured me that she was putting an end to that, but she also made it clear that she dropping him as a friend wasn't an option. A few weeks later, she asked if we could talk about opening up our mar

Hello everyone. I recently learned there are a handful of people in my community who engage in non-barriered intercourse by default (sex with multiple partners without condoms).

I try to keep to only one non-barriered partner, to minimize any STI spread that may occur. Though testing is important, there are risks that 1. A test may be wrong, and 2. An infection can be introduced and spread after a successful clean test.

Also, my partner has a history of getting BV if her non-barriered partner(s) have other non-barriered partners. So, we keep it to only one non-barriered partner (for intercourse).

Any thoughts on this? Is it ethical to have more than one? Is it sustainable to only have one?

Hello ♥️

I hope lots of you know that this Saturday is the first somewhat organised day of visibility for Non-Monogamy in all of its forms (see link)

My ‘cule and I are off to a picnic in my city; what’re you all doing? 😊