me being autistic at the same time not knowing that was looked down upon: you gonna finish your fries??
yoooo, my first adult bed, furniture set, and laptop were from the trash. rich kids in college towns throw out the best stuff. it was a Compaq, and the only problem was overheating because it needed that heat sink lube.
Is asking questions about basic things an ADHD thing? I thought it was an autism thing.
Yep, already dropped of my mail-in ballot in person and received an email from the county election supervisor that my vote counted 🤠
I swear, we are the ultimate scapegoats for bullies. I've been going through a similar experience for a while. It's like people try to find anything that they can criticize and use it to shame me rather than have an open and forthcoming discussion to address it. Being autistic, we're always guessing how to do things in a world where everyone else knows the rules, which are meant to be followed, and which are meant to be violated.
Au: You're violating a rule.
NT 1: Yeah, but it's okay. It's not a big deal because it doesn't harm anyone and everyone else is doing it.
Au: violates rule and gets caught because they thought that's normal and expected
NT 2: That is a rule. Why did you violate it?
Au: Because it doesn't harm anyone and everyone else is doing it
NT 1 & 2: So now you're snitching too?
Here's another one. You learn a rule and apply it in the situation you learned it. However, you didn't know it was applicable in other similar situations, so you don't apply it. People get upset with you because they have seen you apply it in the first situation, so you "should have known" and therefore need to be punished. 😮💨
I don't care how you walk, talk, or breathe. You be you. Don't accept other people's shame being dumped on you. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, tell them that you don't like what they do that makes you feel bad. If they keep doing it, stop being around them as much as possible. It's not your responsibility to help others process their shame. You are your main responsibility and already working with a disadvantage. Make sure you're okay ❤️
I would censor the work f--k because it might come off like you're being passive aggressive and aren't really trying. Reminds of the time the actor that played Burke on Grey's Anatomy called the actor that played George a fa---t, then made a public apology saying he's sorry he called him a fa---t and that he wont say fa---t again, except he said the word. People got even more pissed, and I think he was fired from the show. 🤦
I previously made a comment on how I've learned to apologize if you're interested.
ive been disconnected. what happened?
exactly what i was thinking about. it was such a tense and shameful period.
We might be living the final moments of not being terrified what the US President is going to do
These might be the good old days. Go outside, feel the grass, say wassup to your neighbors,... whatever you do that means community, because sh*t might get bad for a while.
“the sticks” doesn’t mean poor
Is there an informal term that would describe poor rural neighborhoods similar to ghetto/barrio?
When you’re poor, everything smells like whatever’s on sale.
That's right!! For me, it was like whatever I had that was nice. If someone got me a nice shirt, I would protect that shirt and only wear it to special events that I knew would not place the shirt in any danger (physical activity, stains from cooking or painting, etc.). I kind of still do that and have a few shirts that are ~20 years old, a backpack that is 23 years old, and a multi-tool that's about 21 yrs old. Never though that was associated with growing up poor, but it makes sense now.
People that grew up in poor neighborhoods (e.g. in the ghetto/barrio/sticksbackwoods), what behaviors, customs, and beliefs did you change when you moved on up?
Things in poor neighborhoods are done differently than in middle- and upper- class neighborhoods. People that grow up in poor neighborhoods develop behaviors, customs, and beliefs that are different from other neighborhoods because they are part of surviving in the struggle. When they move on up, some of those behaviors, customs, and beliefs are no longer necessary and can even be harmful (e.g. strong reactions to perceived attacks). Others may actually provide an advantage (e.g. living through power outages). Regardless, these changes can cause a sense of estrangement from their childhood and original culture, leading to some resistance. Given all that:
What did you change and what did you keep?
Am I allergic to my dog, and if so, what solutions do I have?
I've had my dog for 2.5 years now. This might seem like a silly question to most, but I'm kind of oblivious to some things that are obvious to most people (e.g. having allergies, knowing when I'm hungry, when I should go to the doctor, etc.) so I would appreciate helpful responses.
Signs
- If my dog gets on my bed, I sleep poorly until I change the sheets.
- If I sleep with my dog in my room, I wake up tired and like I had trouble breathing all night. It's like if my airway was smaller/tighter. I've already been assessed for sleep apnea and they said I'm okay.
- Even without my dog in the room or on the sheets, when I sleep at home, I wake up pretty tired and it takes me a while to get going in the morning. This doesn't happen when I sleep elsewhere like at hotels.
- If I clean up my house really well and change the air filter, it seems like I have more energy for a few days.
- If I take a cetrizine (Zertec) or loratadine (Claratin), I feel a little better in the morning, but
A person sneezing
achoo!
An anthropomorphic Saturn
Saturn with human qualities
Same, but I didn't marry them. I became nearly completely useless. Lost almost all friends, hobbies, work, goals, dreams, and even desire. I couldn't recognize myself in the mirror. Coming back has been incredibly difficult since I didn't trust anyone to guide me nor myself. How do you get somewhere without direction? Lately, I think I'm on the right track, but I will never be my old self and that's okay. My old self got me in that situation, so the new one will be better.
Below are three songs that I found validating during these times. Two are in English and one is in Spanish. If you don't speak Spanish, I would happily translate the lyrics for you; just let me know.
Ren and Chinchilla
The Big Push
Residente
This is genius! thanks for sharing 🙂
you don't care about your produce! 🫢
Bupropion is the only antidepressant that works for my mood. The SSRIs and SNRIs make me feel numb and dumb, so I hate them. However, bupropion doesn't have any noticeable impact on my adhd. I gotta take ritalin for that.
Thank you very much!
I've heard that people use snow tires. How does that work? Does everyone have 2 sets of wheels at home that they switch with the seasons?
What do people that are for the first time moving to a place where is snows need to know?
If you never lived where it snows and were moving North to where it does snow, what would you have liked to have known? What would you do to prepare?
Someone that just pooped their pants
Medusa
The mythological snake hair lady
A hotdog car driving into a tunnel that's a person's mouth
So that it looks like both a car driving into a tunnel and a person eating a hotdog.
Silly Drawing Request - Request and Submit drawings for fun!
An accepting, humorous, and social community to request and share drawings inspired by this post. No drawing is bad unless it violates the rules.
How to
- Make a post requesting a specific drawing.
- Respond to posts/requests by commenting their submission to the request.
- Respond to submissions as you please.
Rules
- Drawings must somehow match the request
- Do not submit your own drawing in a post. Instead, submit it as a comment to your post.
- Follow instance rules
Encouraged
- Fun enjoyable drawings without considerable concern for their quality
- Improvised drawings
- Ridiculousness
- Enjoyable praise and conversations
- Participation of users that are "bad" at drawing
- High quality drawings that are humorous or creative
Is there a reminder bot on Lemmy?
Is there a bot for creating reminders on Lemmy? Say for example I see a comment that I would like to be reminded of in 3 months, I could reply to the comment with "remindme 3 months" or "remindme February 2, 2025" and on Feb 2, I get a direct message in my inbox reminding of the comment with a link.
Americans that have moved to Puerto Rico, what's it like and would recommend it?
Looking for the perspective of anyone that has lived anywhere in the USA and moved to Puerto Rico. What's it like, what's different, what's nicer, what was unexpected, and would you recommend the move?
Is it cheaper to use a plug-in oil radiator to heat an individual room, or run the central heater to heat an individual room and living room?
With winter coming up, I have two options for home heating.
Central unit
- I can use the central unit and close/open vents throughout the house to heat up only the individual rooms I want. This would heat up rooms very quickly. However, to make this work, the living room with the thermostat will also need to be heated so that the thermostat reads the proper temperature. The living room is by far the largest space at about 2.5 times the size of the largest room.
Oil-filled radiator
- I can use an oil-filled radiator to heat up an individual room. This would be much slower, but I wouldn't have to heat up the entire living room. However, the oil-filled heater might not be as efficient as the central unit. I don't know. I plan to rarely heat up the living, no more than once per month.
Edit: The central heating unit is actually a heating kit made up of a few coils that is added to the central a/c.
Edit 2: Where I live, it
Now that it's getting cooler
Meme: Sad Pablo Escobar meme moping around
Caption: Me waiting for the hot water to reach the sink every morning
Now that it's getting cooler
Meme: Sad Pablo Escobar meme moping around
Caption: Me waiting for the hot water to reach the sink every morning
The universe is bottle-necked at processor speed
The universe is humongous.
- The hard drive space is practically limited to the Big Bang on one end and the heat death of the universe on the other, but it contains all of the data for everything that exists. That's massive.
- The RAM is massive because it's handling all the variables and changes of the present.
- The cache is much smaller as established by the study that found the universe is not locally real. Things only happen once they are observed, but it happens almost instantaneously. Still, the cache is massive because it is handling everything that is being observed at the same time. That's a lot of things.
All of the above are massive extremes. However,
- The processing speed is limited at the speed of light. In comparison to the others, the speed of light is soooooo ridiculously slow, causing a bottle neck.
PS - Massive because it's mass I've observed. Not really tho, you sil
What's the term for someone that likes Jesus of Nazareth, but doesn't identify with church, religious dogma, or whatever?
They think, "Jesus was cool. I like him, and I'm gonna try to be like him." Kind of like their guiding light is what would Jesus do? But there isn't a focus on identification, recruiting others, judging others based on their religion, fear of God, fear of punishment for sinning, respect for clergy as an authority, rituals, worship, etc. Basically, just the example of Jesus' life.
inb4: Christian lol!! got em!
Congru(l)ence
Meme:
Self-Esteem Check list for Dummies
- Negative self-talk
- Lack of confidence
- Poor insight
- Categorizing people
- Reliance on references
Salsa dance team icon submissions
I submitted 3 drawings as icons for a salsa dance team. These are the two that were not chosen.