I M(38) have been on a sabbatical through Asia and got to know a lovely woman. We have slept with each other, spend 2 weeks together. She even cooked for me. I know she wants me. I am back home now and we are staying in touch over whatsapp. She wants to see me again and I'm pretty sure she wants a relationship and eventually settle with kids. I, on my hand, am not sure if I should settle for her. I fear that she is only after my money and will reveal her true colors once she is married to me. I am doing well in life and it is her chance to leave her poor country behind and upgrade her life. She seems really fine so far but like I said I fear that she is baiting me and wants to exploit me financially. How do I approach this to check what she is really about? Its risky to settle for her but its probably even riskier to settle for a woman in my country (high divorce rates). So what do I have to lose, right?

really? i know she doesnt speak for all women but... is that how you ladies see yourselves?

Hey Lemmings!

Do you have any nice stories about dating or finding love to share with those who might struggle?

I thought one would be easier to find. I don't see any "ads" here, the BDSM community isn't quite my fit right now, and I'm not Malaysian.

I made an account and was met with continuous swiping with what felt like no limit, when closing and opening tinder I am met with accounts that have already been swiped.

Reading online says ive been shadow banned, maybe due to VPN.

When I go to settings and down to account deletion the app returns an error disallowing me to delete.

Anyone else dealt with this?

If you feel like the dating landscape is bleak, take comfort in the fact you’re not alone. A recent YouGov poll showed that 46% of people using apps like Tinder and Bumble have had bad experiences, and three in five people find the profiles they’re shown to be unappealing. Combine that with a cost of living crisis and the widespread closure of nightlife venues in the UK, and it’s a tough time for people looking to meet their life partner.

Blaine Anderson is a dating coach who has helped over 3,000 men get out of their dating slump and navigate the modern challenges of finding love. A world apart from the highly dubious world of ‘pick-up artists’, Anderson wants to help men get better at presenting themselves, not simply to pursue sex but so that they can build meaningful, lasting connections. “Dating for men is a marketing problem,” is how she puts it, “… and great guys often suck at marketing.”

Below, she shares her top tips for finding love – from nailing the perfect app pr

Bumble Founder and Executive Chair Whitney Wolfe Herd defended her dating app’s new AI feature on stage in San Francisco on Thursday. She went on to describe a version of the future where “AI-dating concierges” message each other on a human’s behalf.

Match Group, the company that owns several dating apps, including Tinder and Hinge, released its first-quarter earnings report on Tuesday, which shows that Tinder’s paying user base has decreased for the sixth quarter in a row. On the other hand, Hinge has seen an increase in members who are willing to pay for the app. Tinder had 10 million paying users in Q1 2024, which is a 9% decrease from the previous year. Meanwhile, Hinge now has 1.4 million paying users, a 31% increase year over year.

The decline of Tinder was foreseeable due to the shift in dating app culture that has taken place in recent years. Younger users are more interested in pursuing serious, long-term relationships instead of casual hookups, which is what Tinder is known for. Since its inception, Hinge has gained popularity among users looking for more substantial connections.

While Tinder struggles to retain paying users, Hinge is on track to become a “$1 billion revenue business,” touts CEO Bernard Kim duri

A class-action lawsuit filed in a US federal court last Valentine’s Day accuses Match Group – the owners of Tinder, Hinge and OkCupid dating apps, among others – of using a “predatory business model” and of doing everything in its power to keep users hooked, in flagrant opposition to Hinge’s claim that it is “designed to be deleted”.

The lawsuit crystallised an ocean of dissatisfaction with the apps, and stimulated a new round of debate over their potential to harm mental health, but for scientists who study romantic relationships it sidestepped the central issue: do they work? Does using the apps increase your chances of finding your soulmate, or not? The answer is, nobody knows.

“The science isn’t there,” says sociologist Elizabeth Bruch of the University of Michigan, who has studied online dating for a decade.

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Of course, offline methods can be frustrating too, but what if they could all be improved?

The technology that enables online dating presents a golde

So how did this particular romantic faux pas become so pervasive?

Let’s start with the apps, which have seismically altered the romantic landscape. Dating once relied on ineffable chemistry and natural conversation, but it’s become gamified, the unwanted love child of online shopping and the job application process. It’s as though in a capitalist, hyper-individualistic society, men are approaching dating as they would a job interview, an opportunity to prove themselves rather than to foster genuine connection. It’s long been apparent that dating and corporate culture have merged: Bumble has a professional networking off-shoot called Bumble Bizz, while other singletons have admitted using LinkedIn to find love rather than jobs. In other words, men are so busy trying to sell themselves that they forget to ask about you.

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Writer Grace Flynn, however, suspects that men’s lack of curiosity might be symptomatic of something darker. “I went on a few dates with a man of many w

I'm personally learning Mandarin Chinese for fun and watching media.

Hello. I am about to enter the dating pool again as a financially stable, working, hetro, 53 y/o man in the DC area. I have been out of the pool for about 10 years, where do people meet people now?

Due to my "privacy consciousness" (yes, you could call it digital paranoia, but that sounds as if i were ill and not just conscious about how data trade works in the age of total surveillance) dating apps are no options - the compromise i'm living with is owning, using and carrying a phine with me but without any non-free or known malicious (tracking, data-mining, spying, etc) software.

Any advice on how to get to know interesting people? How did you get to know your partners or acquantances? Did you just give in and opt for one or another dating platform?

This isn't a race thing, more of a cultural thing.

I met a girl on Hinge, she is from China but studies in my city in the UK. We both had a good time, it was a simple coffee and walk date, I walked her home after and we agree'd we would see each other again next week.

What I don't know is, how will the differences between our cultures affect dating? I don't want to cross any boundaries I shouldn't and most of all I don't want to offend her. I plan on talking to her about these things if we go on to have more than 3 or 4 dates, but in the mean time, is there anything I should know?

I really enjoyed the company of this girl, and I can see myself having something special with her but I'm also being cautiously optimistic, it has only been 1 date after all.

Asking a girl out at my workplace.

Hey family! Sooooo. First time posting here, not sure what to include - I’ll try my best.

I’m a vendor that shows up at different locations of work. Then later while I was busy, she said “hey how’s your day going?” And I didn’t hear her and she walked in front of my line of sight to get my attention and ask me again. we were talking after and I mentioned the idea of coffee. She asked “why” and chuckled.

Again later, I told her the next location of work I would be at sometimes I don’t like working there. She said “oh yeah, I go there sometimes.” I said “maybe I’ll see you then!” And she said yeah maybe you will.

Fast forward a week later she shows up with her female friend, and tried chatting but I was busy.

I’m back at her location of work and a few friends recommend different things. I told them “I don’t think she’s interested” And they were like are you crazy?! She brought a friend as a second opinion.

One friend recommended I j

Yeah, I'm a programmer and I've got the itch to create one. DEAL with it! 😝

That said, open to suggestions...I realize that most dating apps have--shall we say--less than desirable people on it, but I'm concerned more about the way the platform operates.

For me, I think the dating app world is a hodgepodge of garbage. I've been on a lot of the common ones (and I'm willing to pay for one), But most of them are strictly an app--no web interface, and fully closed source and a privacy nightmare...or online but they block you if you even think about using a VPN (because obviously only criminals use VPNs).

So from a technical standpoint REST-based dating apps are best, because it can start on the web (and remain on the web), then a smartphone app could be built on top of it. Then again, my aim isn't to digitally violate my users, so I've probably lost that game. 🤣

So, what about you folks? What would your ideal dating app look like?

Are you single, talking, dating, or found yourself in a relationship recently?

Going through a breakup with someone you love is like a punch in the gut. It feels like you’ve lost not just a partner, but your confidant and partner-in-crime. The worry creeps in — will you ever find someone like them again? Can you even be happy without them?

And then there’s that lingering feeling, right? What if you still love your ex and want them back? What if letting them go was a mistake? Is it even possible to mend things?

Well, here’s the scoop: winning back your ex is doable, but it’s no walk in the park. It calls for serious effort, a good dose of patience, and a brave heart. Plus, you’ve got to bring some wisdom, maturity, and a sprinkle of humility to the table. Your ex needs to see you’ve grown for the better, that you still care, and you’re ready to put in the work.

https://medium.com/@teryimashedracktd098/how-to-win-your-ex-love-back-after-break-up-9-ways-to-get-your-ex-back-625bab534e5c