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  • Transport for London says e-scooter trips rose 54% in a year, with 95% parked correctly and no deaths recorded

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  • OK so here's the thing I've been curious about: my colleagues have often argued that e-scooters mostly don't replace cars, but public transit use and even worse, foot traffic. And I find it hard to argue against their line of reasoning... Which makes me wonder: are there any statistics on what they displace?

  • 🛃🙊 The spread of travel authorisations (🇺🇸→🇬🇧→🇪🇺) has scrapped our visa-free travel rights. Also resulting in privacy loss and suppression of speech.

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  • Canada has also introduced this, as well, they call it an ESTA. And it's an absolute clusterfuck. It is literally impossible to reach someone there. I don't mean figuratively, literally. You call and they say "all agents are busy" then hang up. Whether they've just opened, it's in the middle of the day, or they're just closed. And don't even bother trying to send someone in Canada to try to take someone in person - they'll just refer you to that fucking phone number. Consulates and embassies can't do anything, either.

  • So... last time I told my mom to get out of the room when I was with the therapist/psychitrist (or whatever... idk their roles) and now my mom is insisting to be in the room with me for the future...

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  • Like... before y'all yell "narcissist"... I do genuinely think there is a part of her that "cares" about me... but I feel like its a kinda twisted and weird way of "love"...

    I'm not going to diagnose her, because all I know about her is from your post and the one comment. What I will say, though, is just because someone seems to care about someone, doesn't mean that they're not a narcissist. Narcissists will often make it so their actions seem caring, and that is specifically part of what they use to hook you.

    Take my example - I was abused by a narcissist for a year or so. One of the things she did was to worry about my alcohol consumption. Seems like a genuine caring thing to do, alcoholism can be a serious problem. I like to party, but I'm not an alcoholic and never have been. But here's the thing: partying is usually when I saw my friends, and those friends were worried about what was happening to me. They didn't know the ins and outs of emotional abuse, but they knew that something was off, and they knew my abuser was up to no good. Of course, my abuser didn't want me to realize what was going on, so that was a way of getting me to have less contact with those friends (she also "worried" that they were the wrong crowd to hang out with). And I generally believed that she was genuinely concerned, albeit misguided - due to all the manipulation, there was no way in hell that I would believe it wasn't genuine concern. And I believed it for a hell of a long time. It was kind of a catch 22 - how could I possibly accuse her of having ulterior motives if she's doing so much for me, even if it is misguided? And because I wouldn't dare accuse her of having ulterior motives, I contributed to believe that she was actually doing things for me, making me more emotionally attached. It took me three months after I was out of that situation to realize that maybe she wasn't doing all these things out of the misguided goodness of her heart, and that maybe there was some other reason. And then, things started to click. In a horrifying fashion.

    Let's come back to your situation. You had mentioned that it is a matter of control, which is spot on. Let's take that a bit further: as you alluded to, it means you can't talk honestly about the relationship with your mother. That seems to be something you want to do, and rightly so. What could the consequences be if you take to your therapist about that relationship? Well you could come to the realization that the relationship is toxic, or abusive. That realization is the first step to getting out of a toxic or abusive relationship, and that is in all likelihood something your mother wants to avoid at all costs. So, essentially, being there when that topic comes up could be a way to nip it at the bud.

    I'm not saying that she is a narcissist. What I am saying is that it's in your best interest to not discount that possibility all that quickly, especially since your reason for discounting it is typical for people who are experiencing narcissistic abuse but haven't come to terms with it yet. Take your time, and try to stay open minded, even if it is very difficult in that kind of a situation (and definitely try to find a way to speak with your therapist without your mother around, you are absolutely on the right track with that).

  • Polish Train Maker Is Suing the Hackers Who Exposed Its Anti-Repair Tricks

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  • Unfortunately, EU laws mean that they have to let companies bid on contracts, so their influence on who they deal with is somewhat limited.

  • Its called the European way of life not Euromaxxing

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  • I'm like this sometimes, and if I would set my alarm clock 5 minutes earlier it wouldn't change much because my mind would go "well, you did set your alarm 5 minutes earlier, you can relax for another 5 minutes".

  • Peace ‘within reach’ as Iran agrees no nuclear material stockpile: Oman FM

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  • That literally aged faster than milk.

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    Reddit decides to remove r/all

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  • roflcopter in for the rescue

  • What's with neurotypicals? Why do they seem to dislike autistic people this much?

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  • From my experience, it's the inability to read the cues, especially body language, of autistic people.

    Picture it from the other side for a moment. Neurotypical people constantly show some kind of body language. And they often don't even know it - it's instinctual for them. It shows the outside world whether they're happy, sad, think of themselves as better or worse than others, how much energy they have, etc. They also read everyone else's body language, and use it to interpret whether the people may pose a threat to them. This guy is relaxed, on his phone and has tuned out the outside world - not a threat. This guy is happy and quite joyful - not a threat. This guy is agressive and has his nose in the air - stay the fuck away. And again, all of this happens subconsciously. So then suddenly, there's a person who's body language your subconscious can't interpret. Your subconscious has no clue if this person is a threat or not, and that makes it uncomfortable. If in doubt, your subconscious says "rather safe than sorry". And if your conscious side doesn't know how autistic people can express themselves, you don't have anything to override it.

    A theater teacher I had once explained how to make your body language 100% neutral. He then said: "this is not something you ever do in daily life. Normally, you're always communicating something through your body language, and others pick up on it subconsciously. If you want to have some fun, go to a crowded subway platform and do that neutral stance. It won't take long before people start taking a distance, it freaks people the fuck out."

    It's possible to learn most of the body language of autistic people, but it's not something that comes naturally to most. I've learned it myself, since I grew up with a number of autistic relatives (although sometimes I suspect I may be ever so slightly on the spectrum, but I've never bothered to look into it too deeply, so maybe take me "learning" it with a grain of salt), and if I pay attention I can notice the moment where my brain switches how it interprets cues from other people.

  • ‘We need to act’ on men’s health, minister says as government seeks feedback - National | Globalnews.ca

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  • This. Fix the problems, regardless of gender.

    (Interestingly enough I've been accused of sexism or similar for suggesting the same thing when the genders are swapped. Interesting how things work)

  • The touchscreen MacBook Pro rumors are exciting – but I'm worried it'll still be missing FaceID

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  • Well, that will have taken long enough.

  • Stock markets stumble as global trade faces more Trump tariff uncertainty

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  • TACO in 3, 2, 1...

  • Say NO to Mandatory E-Bike License Plates and Registrations [California]

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  • OK, well, at least you're consistent.

    I would be careful with the statement that license plates have done little to mitigate road safety issues, though. They have not fixed the problem entirely of course, far from it, but they have greatly increased accountability, because all an ordinary citizen needs to do in the case of a hit and run is to note the plate number. It also enables the use of speed and red light cameras, which have also lead to a decrease in dangerous driving. (And note - speed and red light cameras are not surveillance in that sense, since they - bar malfunctions - only hit those who are guilty or are very likely to be guilty).

  • Say NO to Mandatory E-Bike License Plates and Registrations [California]

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  • So are you arguing that cars shouldn't have license plates, either? Because if the point of license plates is to enable surveillance, then that would apply to cars, as well.

  • How should Lemmy & Piefed handle voting activity from banned/deleted accounts?

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  • I have to say, I've always admired the Stack exchange system. Yes, it's a Karma-like system, and it's obviously not perfect, but it means that accounts always start with very little abilities, most notably that they're not able to downvote yet. And when those accounts do get the ability to downvote (which doesn't come all too quickly), it costs a certain amount of their "reputation", which makes them think twice about downvoting.

  • Lemmings, please give us your info dump.

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  • The scammers will often try to portray themselves like that, but it's far from the truth. Very often, the scammers end up getting way, way richer than you and I could ever dream to be. That's not some Robin Hood like action, that's theft, plain and simple. If they were going after those big companies and distributing the wealth in their communities, that would be one thing (in fact, the communities around them often hate them as well). But they're going after the most vulnerable and using the money to drive around in overpriced cars.

    So no, I will not treat them like normal people, I will treat them like the organized criminals they are who do not stop harassing me.

  • ich🔊🔊😭iel

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  • "die Rentner von heute..."

  • What are some Ship of Theseus bands, where all original members have been replaced by someone new?

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  • I'm outing myself, but La Bottine Souriante is a Quebec/French Canadian folk band who's founding member are all no longer current members.

  • Lemmings, please give us your info dump.

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  • Usually the robot asks you to press a number, as soon as you do that you'll be talking with a "representative"

  • An effective tool to deal with zionist posters

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  • MeanwhileOnGrad @sh.itjust.works
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    Tankie Bingo!

  • Unpopular Opinion @lemmy.world
    unknownuserunknownlocation @kbin.earth

    Nice guys often do finish last, and I'm tired of hearing the opposite