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  • You're absolutely right, I've learned to stay away from productivity hacks online! I was working with a counselor which helped, but as most things go, it's hard to keep up with appointments. I'm a business owner and have two kids so I get busy and overwhelmed and self-care tends to take a hit.

  • ADHD memes @lemmy.dbzer0.com
    polarpear11 @lemmy.world

    I'm at the mercy of my own whims. How can I feel more in control of myself?

    I came to a startling realization this morning while getting ready to start my day. I plan my day around various contingencies because I know that if I don't feel like doing a task, nothing will stop me from not doing it. It's like I live in fear of myself like I'm some sort of moody army general and I have to work around my own impulsiveness. I take adderall and that helps me to focus but most of my adhd problems are things that I'm not sure medicine will help. Has anyone successfully gotten at least a little handle on their productivity? How did you do it?

    I'll also explain what made me come to this realization. I had the thought, "thank God I've been in mood to be frugal recently, I'm scared of when that feeling goes away and I start spending money on stupid shit again" So yeah, impulsivity is a problem 😅

  • I'm an American and had no idea what you were talking about so I did some research and holy shit. I didn't even know Rupert Murdoch had that kind of control. I think I'll pay more attention to global news from now on. I've been trying to but apparently not enough.

  • Yes, I recently created a Pixelfed account and I definitely balked at the "pick and instance" step. When I joined lemmy (using connect) it didn't ask me to pick an instance to create an account with and eased me into the idea of the fediverse. As a reddit refugee that only left because of morals, I absolutely felt like a fish out of water but I persisted. Others don't wish to persist with something confusing or different. One one hand, that's fine with me, I don't want to share a platform with people like that anyway. On the other hand, if it's not at least a little popular and easy to swallow for new users, growth will be impacted.

  • I'm a wedding photographer, a few months back I had a pooping dog behind a bride and groom and you better believe I took pictures! We all had a pretty good laugh about it especially because it was a private wedding venue and even the venue owners had no idea where the random dog came from but he just popped and disappeared lol

  • I'm thinking this will probably be the last year they will want their party together. They go to an extremely small school and know a lot of the same kids so it never feels disjointed but I also want them to get the special birthday treatment most kids enjoy. Another commenter suggestion of one party in the am and one in the pm could be a good compromise for this year though.

  • Parenting @lemmy.world
    polarpear11 @lemmy.world

    Need birthday party advice...

    My kids are young and their birthdays are exactly 3 years and 1 day apart. We have their birthday parties together for now because they are still young (turning 4 and 7) they also get along and don't mind at all sharing a birthday party.

    When making invitations should I put that it's a joint birthday party? I don't want parents to feel obligated to get something for both kids but I also don't want them to feel bad that they didn't know and didn't get something for the other kid. How should I word the invitations?

  • I have two kids, one is 7, girl, and has pretty classic adhd (I have adhd too but the more internal kind that is common with girls and women). My other kid, 4, girl, I'm pretty positive does not have adhd but maybe time will tell. She's a pretty textbook toddler and I can see a very striking difference in the two, it's like raising a kid for the first time all over again.

    1. The most challenging moments on a day to day basis is getting her out the door. She never can find her shoes, she gets distracted and is always spacey, takes like 7 minutes just to walk down the stairs. She wakes up sooo early and gets dressed by herself but the shoe thing makes us late a lot. I do my best but she's 7 so she is very particular about what shoes she wants to wear, and they're always missing.
    2. My child does not have aggression, but rather emotional disregulation. When she gets upset she doesn't know what to do with herself and will express this is as extreme frustration and end up burying her head in a pillow. She is naturally a very kind and caring person, I've never seen her be aggressive towards someone else.
    3. When she is having trouble managing emotions, we ask her to stop, breathe, think. We practice breathing techniques and she uses them on her own sometimes when she needs to.
    4. There are two ways her adhd effects me personally. One is that is hard for me to watch her struggle because she going through the same things I did. Even though me and her dad are understanding, I know it can be a very isolating experience. Another way it effects me is her lack of spatial awareness drives me insane. She's constantly under my feet, too close to me, making me feel overwhelmed (I can't handle too much touching, it overstimulates me) I own my own business so I can't work when she's around, talking my ear off, hanging on me. I ask her to stop and she will, and then will come right back in 3 minutes, totally forgetting my earlier frustration.
    5. The biggest thing that would help is more understanding from other people. My mom recently watched both of my girls and was like "omg you have GOT to get her medicated, she's so hyper and spaced out" but the way I see it, is that's her, it's who she is. I think medication would help her navigate school, but i want to do things that are good for her, not because it makes other people more comfortable. Her school is very accommodating, and her current teacher is understanding as she has adhd kids herself. Her teacher last year, however, was not. She's having a much better school year. Teaching her methods of cleaning, emotional regulation, and non-medication ways of making life easier is helpful. My husband and I are only going off of our own experiences though, as we're not professionals.
  • I took my kids trick or treating tonight and, in the neighborhood we go to, everyone who is handing out candy sits on their porch or driveway and it's like a big block party. Nobody goes up to the houses with nobody outside because it's assumed they aren't participating. Being in rural texas, I probably wouldn't let my kids knock on those doors, only if that's what was the norm for the neighborhood. People be crazy out here.