

My son is 3 and goes over to the pear trees where we buried 2 pets in the past 2 years.
Our cat Bruce and our bearded dragon CJ.
He still feels a need to take care of them. He was "in charge" of feeding the lizards so every one in a while he grabs lettuce from the fridge and tries to take it outside for her. While he's over there he says stuff like "pspsps Bruce wanna play with me" and it fucking obliterates me every time.
Bruce was his best friend, he would do his bed time routine with us everynight and loved my son so much. I'm suprised he even remembers him since he was so young but their immediate bond was really special.
I don't think think I'll ever "retire" in the traditional sense.
My thought was to always have a severe mental breakdown around 50 and run off to the woods to build a log cabin and grow my own food. My wife knows of this plan but I'm pretty sure she thinks it's a joke. It's not.
Huh I wonder how many Fair Trade items I bought thinking they were Fairtrade. Thanks.
People genuinely don't understand this and it's scary.
I feel like I'm going crazy explaining what a tariff is to people over and over who have never heard the word before but are praising it as a way to make everything cheaper and boost our economy
I fucking love Cauliflower, I thought I didn't like it because I grew up poor and didn't really get fancy veggies
My toddler and I have been bringing a trash bag to the park and cleaning the place up. It's always a mess and it makes me sad to see because it's my sons favorite park.
My wife and I were once at a day long event a few hours north and it snowed pretty heavy. Didn't even think about the car until we walked up to see the tires almost completely covered. It was late and the whole town pretty much shut down, so all I had to use was a window scraper.
Definitely keep a shovel in the car.
I see stories like this a lot and can't believe it. My wife was in a similar situation and had to get an emergency dnc, and still came close to dying from sepsis.
The doctors were so on it, we waited in the ER for a while because they were packed but as soon as they took her blood and realized what was going on she was in surgery within the hour.
Our son want even 2 at the time. If we were 30 minutes west she would've died. It's absolutely fucking wild.
How could anyone think this is right?
That sounds nice. I was standing at a crosswalk for almost 15 minutes today walking home with my son in his stroller as cars were just flying by not taking a second glance. Last year 4 people died in seperate cases in that crosswalk. It's nuts.
For the longest time I thought people who had solar panels had a battery on their property somewhere, they're panels would charge battery and they would only switch to the grid if their battery ran out.
I don't know much about it, but this seems like a pretty viable solution and I still can't believe this isn't how it works.
The top crack and the little stairstep pattern crack following below it were my main concern. I've just always hear to watch out for the stair pattern and when I saw the big gap I panicked a little.
Thank you so much!
That's a huge relief. The stairstep pattern following the big crack had me worried.
Thank you so much!
Foundation crack
How bad is this crack? I just noticed it today but I assume it's been there a while and happened after an earth earthquake we had a few months ago.
Is this something I can just fill in with mortar and keep an eye on?
I plan on reaching out to our insurance company to see if they'll pay for it but if not we're pretty strapped for cash at the moment.
I have a couple pear trees in my back yard that I planted for my son when we was a baby. When my wife and I had a miscarriage on our 2nd and 3rd try we burried what we could with the pear trees, when out best cat died we burried him there, when my lizard that I've had for 12 years and went through hell with me died we burried her there, when my grandma died I burried some of her trinkets there.
I don't mow much back there and let the grass grow, just keeping the base of the trees clean. Sometimes I like to go sit in that overgrown grass under the trees. It feels safe and comforting, the bugs keep me company, one time I had a garden snake sliver over my shoes and just sit there for a while.
I've never thought about it but I keep my phone in my left pocket. It stays on dnd most of the time and I hardly use it especially when I'm out. The right pocket it for the stuff I'm likely to pull out and use.
I would love even a dumbed down wonderbot from that movie robots. Even something just to load the dishwasher would be amazing.
But we have to prioritize here, if it can't fuck there's no point, throw it in the trash.
I feel like I need this /s although I wish it was obvious.
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I'm much better off financially than my mom ever was, and my grandma even though she did pretty good when she was working was on disability for the last 20 years of her life fighting renal failure and after paying her bills had a couple pennies to rub together each month.
My grandma couldn't do much the last few years and didn't really need money, so I put quite a bit into fixing up her house and making her home dialysis situation as comfortable as I could. New floors, fancy chair, big TV, I even redid her whole lasndscaping outside even though she never really got to enjoy it, she felt better knowing it looked nice.
My mom on the other hand gets about $300-400 on a normal from me for random things for her and my sister, going out to eat, clothes, nails, extra food. Which is essentially the only thing that let's them live a live outside of total poverty. They live in the projects but they can buy things when they want or don't have to worry about how they're gonna get their next meal.
My whole life plan revolves around getting enough land to put a second modest home on for my mom. I'm almost there, which if that wasn't the case I can say with certainty she'd die in those projects and not from old age.
I've never really thought about not taking care of my elders. I guess my situation is one of those exceptions.
I'm pretty good at the whole interacting thing when it's one on one, but put me in a room with more than one person and I freeze up, completely fall apart.
At my job we're expected to at least try to be available if needed after hours which in my 3 years here has happened once and it took about 30 minute and I waited until my son went to bed for the night.
In return we get to leave for doctors appointments, picking up kids, errands etc without having to use PTO or make up the time. It's a pretty sweet deal for the developers and no one abuses it to much.
At my old job they tried to get us to work after hours pretty frequently for a fraction of what our hourly rate was, we were salaried but when you broke it down you'd be getting like $20 an hour instead of $50. Ridiculous and almost no one did it.
Is this the case? I don't feel like I've ever had to install Perl but I've had to install Python plenty of times and I use both pretty frequently on a daily basis. Not to mention a newer version, older version, 2.7.4 instead of 2.7.3.
Funny enough my wife is a wedding photographer, I shoot with her a few times a year and absolutely hate it. She can't imagine doing anything else but if it wasn't my wife you couldn't pay me enough to do it more than once a year.
The second hand gear is the way to go though, she got some Sony camera a while back that cost like 2k new for around 900 because it had a small scratch on the body and one of the metal things that hold the thing on was loose. We ordered a new metal thingy and with a couple screws it was practically new.
Do fragrant herbs repel wasps?
Figure this was a good place to ask.
My whole block has a horrible wasp issue. All my neighbors seem to just be killing them as they see them with raid or something, which hasent helped much.
My plan was to use a vinegar/water mix with a few drops of peppermint oil and go around the house and spray it in the areas i cant have them for immediate action. But i also hear you can plant some herbs like lemon balm and mint to help keep them away from certain areas. I'm not sure how true this is so I figured id ask.
I already have some lavender, lemond balm, and catmint plants i can move around.
P.S. i know they're necessary and good to have around, but my 2 year old is allergic and loves to play in the yard.
What's this bug?
Terrible picture but it's the best i could get.
In the US south jersey.
They're tiny, dark with some spots and seem to like hanging out in windowsills.
They super squishy when squeezed and slow, they started appearing inside when the weather was getting warm a few weeks ago.
Best way to grow strawberries
We're planning on growing strawberries this year. I was planning on putting them in pots with plant hangers on the sunny side of the fence, my wife suggested building a vertical tower with some dollar store tri-pots.
Both ideas make sense to me so i wanted to see if anyone had any experience/advice on what's the best way, or if it doesn't matter, or if there's a much better idea that we haven't thought of.
Thanks in advance!
First hardwood cuttings
After only 2 weeks 4 of my 5 hardwood apple tree cuttings already have a little bit of root growth!
It's not much, I could joke and say you need a microscope to see it and not be far off but it feels like such an accomplishment and a little like magic.
It's my first time propagating from cuttings and I'm absolutely amazed that I essentially stuck some sticks in dirt and they're turning into trees.
Even workload
Those who are lucky enough to have a partner.
How do you divey up the workload and ensure an even partnership where one partner is stay at home and the other works full time?
miscarriage
My wife and I had a miscarriage last week. We were 11 weeks along but our baby only grew to 8 weeks.
It's been devastating.
I'm hoping to get some advice from anyone who's been through it.
Thanks for any advice.
Advice for sleeping in a hotel with a baby
My wife, my 1 year old and I have a trip coming up and we'll be staying in a hotel.
Our big guy's done great on previous trips sleeping without a problem, but this will be the first time we don't have a separate room for him (we've stayed in cabins and stuff before, I don't mean a separate hotel room). When we try to put him down and he sees us still in the room he usually just cries for us and we would have to end up going to bed with him.
I would love to be able to put him down and still be able to enjoy a quite night of playing cards or watching a movie with my wife without having to go to bed at 7 with him everynight.
Anyone have any advice?