I wish there was a good FOSS (or just works on Linux) alternative to adobe lightroom so I could stop fixing broken windows shit on my wife's computer.

She's a photographer and does a lot of heavy editing stuff. I know there's some alternatives but she says nothing comes close for what she needs to do, and from the few examples she showed me I agree.

I don't know what the fuck Microsoft is doing but almost everytime there's an update something breaks on her laptop. The only thing she does is use lightroom, occasionally Photoshop and Firefox.

I recently had to use her laptop to make a windows installer USB for someone and Rufus was cool. When installing windows though it just didn't see any of the drives in the laptop? Apparently I had to load storage drivers specific to that laptop, which weren't available anywhere online I could find. I managed to get it working by loading a bunch of unrelated drivers for a different HP model laptop, none of them related to storage. I think it was the Bluetooth driver that got it working, after it installed nothing was working, no mouse, speakers, USB ports. I had to install all of those same drivers again for some reason. Before that just to make sure the drive wasn't bad I installed Debian on there and what do you know, it just did it, because of course it did, and everything worked.

I got way off topic, but again what the fuck is microsoft doing?

I was gonna say I thought this had been the case forever. I don't use this feature but I recall seeing it on pretty much every custom ROM I've used over the last few years.

I have some stuff that I would happily mail to someone who needed it, some older but still usable phones/computer, a ton on perfectly fine laptop parts that I don't need, baby toys/clothes, I got more formula than I'd ever need when my youngest son was born and my wife is breastfeeding so I'm trying to get rid of it.

I don't really like the chain thrift stores and all the small local ones around me shut down after a chain moved to town. I donate to the schools a lot but they're suprisingly picky about what they'll take.

I could see it working.

I don't think I would be comfortable sending money nor am I necessarily in a position to do so. But I can afford a few bucks in postage and a clear shelf in the garage.

I find that I'm pretty much useless after 4 hours. I usually do a 4 hour stretch during the day and then hop back on for another 2 hours when the kids are down and that seems to be the most productive for me.

I once worked at a place where I built out a bunch of internal tools that became pretty heavily integrated into the development workflow. Everything I built was the shittiest, most disgusting piece of garbage I've ever seen, but it worked. My job became solely managing these tools, as everyone else struggled to read and comprehend my filth.

I ended up switching jobs because they wouldn't give me the compensation I asked for and half of the development team quit before my 2 weeks was up to avoid dealing with my slop, a lot of them were already considering leaving for lack of compensation, but this was the nail in the coffin.

I found out a few months later that instead of just going back to life without these tools or finding someone to take them over they just shut down the development department. The people who were left either got fired or moved to a different department to pursue a new career path.

Neat and simple. Thanks.

One of our cats is Meshe, we call her Moo. Meshe -> Mooshe -> Moo.

Bonus: we have a dog named Gismo, we call him big boobs. Don't ask how we got there, it makes sense.

My wife said something like "the patriarchy hurts everyone, men included" and everything made a lot more sense.

I did call them out a bit. The thing that broke me was when I said something like "I provide a lot more than financial support. I cook, clean, change diapers etc.." And I saw the group split between the guys who do that stuff and those who don't.

It made me sad, a lot of these guys are only a few years older than me and can't really blame it on "how things used to be". I felt like I was in the 50s or something and I needed to check if the bathrooms were segregated. I've never seen such ignorant toxic masculinity in real life, and I used to work in construction 10 years ago.

Someone else pointed out that they wouldn't be able to survive off of 85% pay without finding gig/temp work. And I'll admit, I'm in a fortunate enough position now that I didn't put much thought into that 15% being detrimental. We'll surely blow through most of our savings and that'll hurt, but we'll be alright.

With my first son I was working 2 jobs when he was born and we were already well behind on a lot of bills so the thought of leave didn't ever begin to cross my mind. It does make me even more appreciative of the position we're in now.

We are in a very fortunate situation. We're not well off by any means but have saved pretty well. We paid off the car last year and started putting that extra money we were paying into a seperate account which turned into our backup account to bridge that 15% gap.

I'm also pretty close with the guy who owns the corner store around the block and can usually pickup a few night shifts a week there when I need to since it's in a rough neighborhood and they haven't been able to find a steady nightshift clerk for 5 years.

We're very lucky that aspect.

That's some assumption, I never said I agreed with them or was looking to take their advice or gain their approval. I said all of the things people are saying in here, I offended a few people who thought I was calling them bad dads which I never directly said, but that's their short line to draw to their own conclusion.

I more so was looking for input on the concept of paternity leave from people outside my small work circle because I thought the overwhelming hate on it was wild and for a minute felt like I was some new age radical who had just discovered the concept of taking care of your family. I knew I wasn't, but I don't hear much about it where I'm at so I figured I'd ask the general community.

My wife's a gig worker and does mostly weekends in summer so I usually get all of that time to be a parent on my own, and while I miss my wife a lot, I love being the sole parent. My son and I have such a different flow than him and my wife and it's so interesting to see.

That first summer with our oldest was rough, he was only a few months old, I was working 2 jobs just so we could scrape by so he didn't really know me yet, he screamed and screamed but eventually we got in a good groove and I found a spot on his back that if I rubbed put him right to sleep. That spot still works 3 years later

That's what I thought. It really felt like I was in the twilight zone going through those conversations.

Oh I had never thought to not take my leave (or care for my teeth) because of what the people around me were saying. The only person whose opinion matters about this is my wife.

I'm just absolutely dumbfounded why people would be so against something that is just plain good for them and their family? I know that's naive, I just can't comprehend it.

I just got my first one yesterday and phew, what a relief. I thought I was a phony for a while there.

Probably any other country where I could get a doctor to take a look at my heart condition without having to take out a loan against my house to pay for it.

That honestly wouldn't suprise me at all, although I was almost never in the office so I didn't know most of the people there outside of my small circle and a few higher ups. I do remember asking a friend who was in the office more if this person was legit and she said she'd never seen her but has gotten a lot of emails from her about "not working".

To contrast my last company, they gave me a laptop that was absolute shit and would give me the blue screen on death a few times a day. I asked for a better one and they said no so I asked if I could just use my person laptop and they said sure. Then I started getting messages and calls constantly from someone I didn't know asking why I wasn't working (according to the tracking software on my company toaster).

They then wanted to install their software on my personal laptop, it told them they could try. Watching this lady try to open an exe file on my Debian system for an hour was classic. I tried explaining it to her from the beginning but to her I was a lazy ungrateful kid who was taking advantage of the company. She called IT in to help her who I was good friends with and he told here was already tracking software on there and opened up the syslog file and pointed out the timestamps. So I had to send her a file with timestamps at the end of each day, which I just wrote a script to generate instead of sending her my actual syslog.

In the end they made me go back to the shitty windows laptop and I kept getting calls about not working during the periods the laptop was crashing and taking 30 minutes to reboot. I also started getting calls from my boss about why projects weren't being finished.

Sorry for the long reply, I can never be quick when I talk about that place. I still get skeeved out.

Software dev for a shipping logistics company. I make $80k with 100% paid decent enough health insurance for me and my family.

I could get paid a lot more, but this week I took a 4 hour lunch to go to the park and play soccer with my kid. I let my boss and coworker know and they both just said to have fun and say hi to the family for them. I do something like that at least 2 times and week and it's not a problem.

Last week I went to the aquarium on a whim and my coworker decided that sounded fun and brought his kid too. You would have to pay me a lot more money than I'm worth to give up this kind of freedom.