Yeah. In my case they were all poly when they happened. The one where I was a secret had the spouse, and another partner besides me. I was the secret from one of them, but not the other. Were that not my first poly relationship I almost certainly wouldn't have gotten involved, it was... A mess.
It's not always disgusting, first off xD Polyamory is around, though I've only been with... Uhh... Four? Married people, at least while they were married. A few have gotten married since.
Pretty normal, all things going, with three of them. If you mean "What's it like to be the person someone's cheating with" there's a good goddam reason I refuse to be anyone's secret. That one sucks, it's happened once, and was a 0/10 would not recommend experience for anyone involved. The guy blamed himself after I told him, the girl had cotton candy where most people had a spine, and it wasn't even worth it in bed.
That's part of why I still gave phone numbers and emails, despite both not being secure in any capacity; most people do have them, even if they're not their preferred methods of communication.
I did lose a couple of people, but they were the ones I caught up with like... Once a year, anyway. Not that I didn't value them as friends, but there comes a point where it's like... I'm not missing a whole lot without you here, y'know. And it's not like I had that many friends, either, I only have a handful of people I talk to regularly. Maybe 15-20 a month if we're including friends of people I know who I see in passing?
Yeah, they all really do feel like "Oh you want to stop playing World of Warcraft, but still want an online game to play? Try Second Life!" and I think that's partly because there isn't an app out there that feels like Discord besides Discord. Cinny (Matrix), IRC, and Stoat come close, but none support voice calls at this point, at least that I can find. Matrix itself supports calling (though I think that's still experimental), but Cinny doesn't. If it ever ends up supporting voice calls, that will likely end up being the Discord alternative In wouldn't feel bad recommending.
Until then, though, we don't really have a true Discord alternative. Just various chat apps that don't quite hit the mark.
I mean, most people should, yeah, but most don't. Hell, most people I know can't change a flat on their car, either, and I personally couldn't change my car's headlight. Probably would've figured it out, since I could change the spark plugs, but still. I think it also comes from a different source, though. It's always been anxiety over ruining things for tech, or sending all of your money to a Nigerian prince. Nowadays it's because tech has become more of a black box (like cars) for capitalism reasons, so most people just... Don't look into it. They don't fix their own cars, they don't fix their own computers, they take them to the dealership, or to GeekSquad.
I honestly don't even know if I would've learned half of what I know if I grew up with today's tech. It's a lot more locked down now, so you can't just curiously fuck around with it and see what you can do without breaking it
I just at some point got tired of it and kinda just told everyone "I have an XMPP account, a signal account, a phone number, and an email address. You can use any of those to get in contact with me." and they all picked one. Nobody picked email though xD
Actually I did just ask the same thing, and the TL;DR is that most clients do handle it as signal with group chat folders. Cinny does look like Discord, but currently lacks voice calling. It's currently web only with PWA support for mobile, though.
I haven't managed to get Immich running on my server, so it's more comparing the current Nextcloud memories app to the google photos app from about... A little over a year ago? I'm not sure about the web interface for memories, though, as I don't really use it there
I've heard... Questionable things about the Kagi CEO that make me hesitant to give them money. I just don't really use search engines for much anymore.
I mean... Some people will host free servers, some will be paid. Omg.lol has a fedi server, and a bunch of other stuff, and it costs $20 per year for it. It's fine to expect users to pay you back for your time, effort, and cost???
I'm currently using Lemmy, and Friendica as my only fediverse accounts, and will probably keep it that way. Friendica has a lot of features, but in my experience it's slower than most
Not actually sure on this one, because the terminology for motorcycles is... Weird.
Motorcycles are what we're all thinking of, Harleys, Kawasaki's, Yamaha's, etc. Mopeds and scooters look the same, and both usually have manual transmissions, but have a floor in them. I don't know that there's a word that encompasses both, much less including ebikes? Maybe motorbike
We don't currently have another way of enforcing this sort of thing, though, aside making software paid by default. How else will you convince a company that isn't even concerned with its long-term growth in favor of quarterly earnings reports to pay money for free software? Especially when you consider that (at least in the US) that sort of thing could get them sued by their shareholders.
Frequently threats of legal action, backed by the ability to follow through on them, are enough to get most companies to fold, and pay. I don't know that telemetry would be required in most cases, just because employees do talk, and usually publicly. I'm not sure if Unreal Engine does, but I can say with some certainty that WinRar didn't, and most of their money was made through commercial licenses on nagware
I've always had a thing for tech. I used to make my own custom MySpace profiles, and pet pages on NeoPets, apply custom cursors to my PC, handled stuff when thr computer got viruses; all the stuff you'd expect of a 10 year old with an unrestricted internet access, and a love for technology. I did go to college for networking, but didn't finish, and ended up in an unrelated field (won't name here to avoid doxing myself, but I'm not even allowed to troubleshoot any tech to emphasize how unrelated this is).
I did kinda... Completely drop off for a while, but the thing that got me back was my most recent anti-Microsoft kick. Completely dropped Win10 (I'd usually had a windows and Linux machine at all times), dropped Google as my email, started using omg.lol for a lot of things, etc. Then I went half-in on a computer to use as a DNS-wide adblocker, and noticed that I could do... A lot more with it, and I like to tinker, so why not do a lot more with it? 2 years later, and it's still the best $100 I've ever spent tbh.
Yeah. In my case they were all poly when they happened. The one where I was a secret had the spouse, and another partner besides me. I was the secret from one of them, but not the other. Were that not my first poly relationship I almost certainly wouldn't have gotten involved, it was... A mess.