So. In my experience, places with a generic "No politics" rule tend to become Nazi bars very quickly. That's not the case here, partly (I think) because it specifies US politics. Makes it more clear that this isn't a place where the only genders are "Male" and "Political," even if that kind of is the case in the US.
I think something akin to "Nothing about any current or former politician, or government entity" could be a way to allow discussions about certain parts of politics without others. In the communities (non-lemmy) I've run that's the usual rule I have alongside some others that aren't relevant here.
I would mention that word filters exist, but this post is a great example of why those don't work very well in a lot of cases. "The daft orange lardsack" is a case where self-censorship ends up leading to word filters being less effective. It's also a great way to showcase that you think body shaming is fine in certain circumstances. I, personally, disagree, and think that we can talk about his actions without mentioning his weight, but y'know. What do I know
He also has Pounded in the Butt by my own Podcast, a podcast where he gets people to read his stories. Hasn't been updated in forever, but it's still around.
Interspecies doesn't even begin to describe it, though. When COVID first hit he released a few short stories for free, and one of them was "The Physical Manifestation of Washing my Hands Gets me Off"
Ehh, it's a Christian holiday that got commercialized to sell shit. Much like with Christmas (though that has roots in... Just about every religion that came before it, and early Christians didn't celebrate birthdays anyway). AFAIK Valentine's day is an original Christian holiday to commemorate St. Valentino.
(I guess the 28% of women who describe giving it as pleasurable are each doing it more than 20 times in a month?)
From the people I know, the ones who enjoy it do end up giving oral 20+ times a month if they're in relationships with partners who they live near enough to be giving it most nights.
Instead, I suspect that that number describes the number of times that sexually-active Americans
Wouldn't surprise me, yeah
52% of men
Yeah, I mean only 59% of women do, that's not that different? It's not rounding errors levels, but still
It's... Actually kinda hard for me to make a guess. I think overall it's probably more even than you'd expect. All things being equal (sex drive, being into your partner, etc) straight women outnumber gay men. 51% of the population are women (ish), and about 5% are gay men. Assuming everyone's taken, and everyone has roughly the same ssxual activity, you'd be looking at around 5x the blowjobs in gay relationships (on average there will be more penises to be sucked in gay relationships than straight)
However things aren't equal. People who're trans are also more likely to not be straight (about 17.6% of trans people overall self-ID as straight), but that'll skew the numbers in a lot of different directions because of surgery, and dysphoria.
I'm actually curious how heavily heterofatalism affects this, as well. A lot of straight people seem to hate their partners, though I've been seeing less of that ball and chain type stuff recently than I had in previous years. But also a lot more people are just single than before, so that'll play into it.
I would say it's also age dependent, but there's not much of a difference. Over 40s report having sex about 69 (nice) times per year on average vs 25-34s report about 90 times a year. With retirement communities frequently being STI hotspots I'm not that surprised tbh (condoms do more than prevent pregnancy!)
Only now did I remember that we have statistics about a lot of things. Straight women give oral sex an average of 5.14 times per month. Gay men are 5.3x per month. So yeah. Gay men give fewer blowjobs overall, but more per capita, and gay coupled will have a little more than double the amount of blowjobs. Assuming about 5% of the population is gay men, and only looking at couples, we're looking at about 1 out of every 6 blowjobs being from a gay man.
... These are the thoughts that kept me out of the good schools.
Edit: Now that I've been awake for more than 10 minutes I realize that the doubling of the number of blowjobs by gay men because there are 2 is prooooobably faulty logic. So it's closer to about 10.3% of blowjobs given by gay men if we don't forget lesbians (my own demographic, damn you, me!), and we assume a 9:1 ratio of straight women to gay men.
This is the other part. Idk if it's me, or my equipment, but like... I listen to music for the music. I might like certain genres (noise music comes to mind) more on higher end equipment, because that's the point, but also... Eh? Not why I'm here.
Where in my comment did I mention my stance on LLM usage? All I said was I knew people would be annoying about Torvalds using LLMs to generate code, and that there was an instance of that here.
Gods. The second I saw that Torvalds used an LLM to generate any amount of code I knew people would be annoying as shit about it. And here we are with people being annoying as shit about it.
Honestly the way a lot of the Tinder-style ones (swiping) are designed it almost feels like they're meant to be half-assed? You can't filter by likes, just exclude by dislikes (ex. Don't include people who don't want kids, don't include smokers, etc) because there's no search anymore. They just show you a profile, and you swipe.
When I was using them I very quickly stopped reading bios before they matched back. I just swiped right on everyone, checked daily for new matches, read those profiles and blocked/messaged people based on what was in their profile.
Speaking on filters, though: They don't even work. I had men filtered out, and I ended up getting about 25% of profiles being men. Like, the only gender tag they had was "Man," which lead to a lot of the "Idk why they even showed me to you I have men filtered out" message being sent.
I wouldn't call this "Trying to steal a dog" this is somehow worse. Holy shit she sued a kid for abusing his dog that got away during one of the most devastating hurricanes to hit the US, after the murder-suicide of his parents????
We would complain about bad writing if this was in a villain's back story.
It absolutely seems like the best alternative, yeah. I'll need to get some back end stuff handled to test calling (or just make an account on a server with it), and see how it works
A server system that is separated from DMs/group chats, at least visually
Spaces.
On mobile on the element client, absolutely not. The spaces group chats show up in your DMs, and there is not a way to turn that off. Yes I know about other clients existing, there's one where you can turn that off, but it's not even mentioned on the main Matrix website.
I haven't actually used Stoat, but they don't have group voice calls listed on their website, so I assumed they weren't there. My mistake on that part, but also they should probably list that on their website. That would probably put Stoat as the most viable alternative, especially if they add federation (especially over XMPP, which it seemed from their website was the most likely they'd go with?)
Nowhere in my comment did I state that Matrix didn't support voice calls. What was said was this:
Matrix itself supports calling (though I think that's still experimental), but Cinny doesn't.
Cinny doesn't. Their UI does not have a call button that I can locate, unless they're hiding it because I'm the only user in the room.
Fundamentally Stoat is probably the one that's there as a Discord replacement, since it does have calls, and between two different apps you can get a fully functiobal Discord alternative out of Matrix. But you have to use two apps to get it. If Stoat adds XMPP federation I will 100% switch in a heartbeat tho, I've been saying we could have a discord-like XMPP client since I started using XMPP.
Back on topic, though, the things I want out of a true discord replacement are this:
Group voice calls
A server system that is separated from DMs/group chats, at least visually
Roles within those servers to manage people's access
That's all. That's all Discord has over literally every other chat app. If something is missing those 3 features, it's not a Discord alternative. It's a chat app, which is fine! But when people say shit like "Signal is a good Discord alternative" it makes me question how they're defining every word in that sentence, because it is 100% on the level of saying Guild War 2 is a good Second Life alternative. And my experience with most of the big "Discord alternatives" is that they aren't. The default Matrix+Element experience is not like Discord. I had to start a whole ass Lemmy thread to be pointed to Cinny, which has 2 of those features! Missing the third. Element has two of those features! Missing the third on mobile. I want a cheeseburger and what's happening is one place will sell me a grilled cheese, and the other is selling me a burger with a slice of cheese on top.
So. In my experience, places with a generic "No politics" rule tend to become Nazi bars very quickly. That's not the case here, partly (I think) because it specifies US politics. Makes it more clear that this isn't a place where the only genders are "Male" and "Political," even if that kind of is the case in the US.
I think something akin to "Nothing about any current or former politician, or government entity" could be a way to allow discussions about certain parts of politics without others. In the communities (non-lemmy) I've run that's the usual rule I have alongside some others that aren't relevant here.
I would mention that word filters exist, but this post is a great example of why those don't work very well in a lot of cases. "The daft orange lardsack" is a case where self-censorship ends up leading to word filters being less effective. It's also a great way to showcase that you think body shaming is fine in certain circumstances. I, personally, disagree, and think that we can talk about his actions without mentioning his weight, but y'know. What do I know