Absolutely - but please feel free to share some of her posts yourself, @[email protected]!

This is really interesting to read, thank you! I work in medical education, specifically around gender diversity - so knew a lot of this but not the detail you’ve shared here, so thanks!

Practically speaking - the questions OP mentioned doctors asked are also just the best ways to provide the best care we can. So often we use the sex marker on someone’s file as a shortcut to the kind of care they need, but there are obviously so many exceptions to those rules, and not just for trans and non-binary folks. One of the biggest questions I get asked is about differing care and needs based on sex, and it’s actually so easy - just treat the person in front of you like a whole, individual person, rather than a sex maker on a file.

I think it’s less to do with the traits themselves and more to do with the person and how they’re perceived. As other people have said - people get more of a significant impact from role models they can identify with or look like them. There’s so much room for role models of all types, but if we’re thinking about masculinity specifically, so many young men and boys only have masculine folk in their lives who, for example, don’t share their emotions - and this pattern affirms the idea that it’s not ‘manly’ to be vulnerable.

More people who express themselves in a ‘masculine’ way modeling these positive traits show other people with similar identities and expressions that it’s possible (and good) for them to do it, too.

This is great advice! I also think there’s a huge difference in being stealth by choice and stealth by necessity. Making an active choice in this can be great for your wellbeing - the difference between feeling empowered to do this and being required to do it.

I’d recommend being open to letting trusted people in - one of the biggest struggles of going stealth is the isolation and worry about being outed, and having even one person you can share about this with will make the world of difference.

Congratulations! I’m so pleased for you!

I currently use nextjs and prismic for my CMS - while there are some nextjs themes and starters, it’ll probably require some coding (which I enjoy!). A benefit of next is that it has incremental static regeneration, so can update pages without having to rebuild the whole site.

I’ve also used Sanity on pretty much every other site I’ve built and it’s fantastic!

I’m looking at rebuilding my blog from scratch at the moment - I kind of have a whole different purpose for it now. I’m looking at Astro instead of Next, and thinking about TinaCMS over sanity - partly to try something new, partly because the speed and simplicity of Astro with a visual builder writing markdown is exciting to me!

Oh my god - thanks so much for this! I’m in Aotearoa and this has been on my radar for the last five years, but I’ve never been able to find a copy!

Absolutely try some function key combos - I did something similar this week by setting my keyboard to “ma” and not “mao” this week and got an Arabic script instead of te reo Māori and all of a sudden none of my keybinds worked, but hitting fn+alt+f2 got me to a tty and saved me.

I’ve been using it for the last week and really enjoy it - I’m on an m1 air and asahi is so much snappier than macOS, which is saying something because it still sings!

There’s a few key hardware features still missing - mic, speaker, and the thunderbolt port (so hdmi and external displays) that are preventing me from driving it fully because I do a lot of presentations at work, but it’s quick enough to boot into mac when I need to.

Occasionally there’s something that doesn’t want to run on arm architecture, but there’s usually an alternative - and it sounds like 4k paging is close.

Give it a shot! I’m invested cos I wanna hear more people’s take on it 😅

Oh yeah that’s a good idea actually - I use fastmail too and I don’t mind its UI, but I guess I could also play with its css to make some changes!

This is great, thank you - I’ve been leaning towards mutt or neomutt, but this looks like a great solution!

This is great, thank you - I’ve been leaning towards mutt or neomutt, but this looks like a great solution!

This is great, thank you - I’ve been leaning towards mutt or neomutt, but this looks like a great solution!

Can someone point me where to find information on how to centre that right window like that? Is it a floating window? I have so many programs that make more sense to me to not take the full height of the column!

Jump in the matrix room if you haven’t already - lots of good wisdom in there! I used Caddy which was real straightforward.

I set up conduit recently after struggling with dendrite and it’s been great - the conduit matrix room is super supportive, too. Real lightweight - I have conduit and bridges for instagram, messenger, signal, and irc all running on the same cheap hetzner vm.

Oh, thank you! I’m glad you found it useful - I did too.

Oh, thank you! I’m glad you found it useful - I did too.

I had a similar experience recently - picked up Pulsar because I was getting uncomfortable with VSCode’s telemetry. Found it a bit tricky to config, and then had trouble with atom packages that obviously haven’t been updated for a few years now that are a bit out of date. Switched to vscodium instead!

Multiple shortcuts, I imagine - the one in this screenshot looks like “dg” to search DuckDuckGo.