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Asklemmy @lemmy.ml
drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

what the hell do i do about my sister’s mental health?

my (18f) sister (13f) has severe ocd and depression [is seeing a professional, will take meds]. she is constantly venting to me, walking in when i’m trying to do something private, etc. when i dont respond to her text right away, she tells me i hate her and she “knows i don’t care abt her”.

she constantly wants connections with others, but when they don’t give her exactly what she wants 24/7, she says she hates them and never wants to speak to them again.

i love her but idk how to help.

  • i mean, the first part is true even without the hardship but it gets worse when something like that happens. thank you so much though! i’m just concerned because i’ll go from INSANELY happy and full of ideas and energy to being depressed in the next week or so and nothing will make me happier

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    am i insane? is this common with women who just have hormonal problems?

    i know it’s not just “teenage hormones” (18f). i cannot yet be given a diagnosis on anything though i will be talking to a psychiatrist. this is really fucked up, i hate this so much.

    i’ll be full of energy, all these ideas and motivation. i’ll talk really fast and have no need for sleep.

    then, i’ll get depressed. i was doing GREAT all week and today, but now i’m about to cry simply because my friend only spends time with her friend group and never me. i was mad at that and suddenly ready to block everyone but i feel guilty and im mad at myself for being this way.

    i know she can hang out with her trio, i know we’re still friends. i normally wouldn’t be mad but i truly think i’m going insane.

    uá/уá @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    ni khóm sin sénkho

    khía-núe síin séne? ni síin óa 😊

    Lesbians @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    update: ex dated someone w/o telling me and moved on very quickly, i don’t see her that way but it hurts

    so my ex kayla (20f) is someone i got back together with after she changed and stopped being a dick towards me after we broke up the first time when she was 18 and i was ~17 (i’ll be 19 this year).

    now, she’s a very nice person to me, and i broke up with her because we stopped talking to each other and i therefore lost feelings for her. i didn’t use social media much let alone group chats, and she didn’t private message much.

    when i could/wanted to, i’d try to message but she’d often be doing something else or already in the middle of the convo. before we broke up, it turns out she was seeing another girl without my permission or consent because “she’s poly” (we gotta let each other know before we can date someone, that was the agreement. i did it for her but she didn’t for me).

    we broke up and she moved on quickly because “oh at least i have 2 other women i like” and she didn’t even have feelings for me after we dated?? (she had feelings at 18 when she was a bully, but not at 20).

    No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    is it likely that someone like this will change? what would be her possible mindset for doing all this?

    the woman who hurt me for years always finds a way to blame me for things. things are never her fault, and she thinks i’m disgusting or inferior because of my disabilities.

    she’s nice to everyone else regardless of their disability, but they either have adhd or autism + adhd so maybe autism + bipolar isn’t “one of the good diagnoses”.

    she’s charismatic so everyone defends her. they either don’t know about her or dont care as long as she isn’t hurting them because they love her so much.

    she flirts with all her friends and told me I was too “disgusting” to flirt with and that she “hates threesomes” and that we “weren’t close enough to be friends” even though she finds me “too inferior” to even try and be my friend.

    she’s fixated on me to an extent it feels, going out of her way to piss me off, make me jealous/hurt, making rude “jokes” (which are more annoying than hurtful) but then acting like she does this with all her friends.

    she tries to be friends with my friends in a weird way

    Rant @lemmy.sdf.org
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    I’m tired of people making excuses for an abusive person’s behavior.

    seriously, someone I know caused me to show signs of ptsd which was later diagnosed and i feel actually anxious and nauseous around her with constant nightmares of her but apparently that’s okay that shes causing me to feel that way because “she was just having a bad day” and “there’s nothing wrong with an introvert being distant to people”.

    because being introverted = harming someone to the point they have ptsd. and since she was having a bad day and the poor woman suffers so much, of course it should be okay!!

    it’s sick how badly abusing someone for years for their disability and thinking they’re disgusting and deserve death goes unpunished.

  • she was fine with it, im trying to remember that 20 year old kayla is not the same as 18 year old edgy kayla

  • i detransitioned 😞 mainly bc I felt more like a woman but also due to harassment from my ex

    thank you so much tho!! :DD

  • is it true that if she says we shouldn’t break up and does not give consent then she is still my gf?

  • okay, so she doesn’t even mention me anymore. i’m done. I’m tired of being the second option

  • Lesbians @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    (advice, again) i just messaged my gf asking if it would be better to stay friends, scared she will hate me now.

    i’ll refrain from overposting but i’m a bit scared. kayla (20f) is my gf and (idk if she still is) but was a huge trump supporter. she was quite cruel to me because i first dated her as a trans man and she accused me of sexual harassment after we broke up.

    we got back together and have been dating for quite some time (about 11 months) but we barely talk. she only plays video games and talks to her friends, so i barely chat with her, she rarely responds, and i don’t use Discord a lot where i chat with her.

    i asked if this would work out and if she would prefer it if we were just friends, but im scared that she’ll accuse me of things again and make harassment/slander of me because i said that

    Rant @lemmy.sdf.org
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    trying to move on

    So, my ex Issac (19nb, ~16nb at the time) [pronouns he/they] was my friend from therapy group. He was really friendly towards me (and handsome!) so I (at the time 15f) started to have a slight crush on him.

    At one point, he casually mentioned that he had a partner, so I decided not to proceed any further and let the feelings die.

    Since, at the time, his phone got taken away, I couldn’t get any contact information from him, when he left the group and therapy group ended with the leader getting a new job somewhere else, I didn’t see Issac for a while.

    I moved on forever. I didn’t like him anymore and never would that way, or so I thought.

    I still go to therapy, just with a new therapist. While I was waiting to talk to her one day, I saw Issac again playing a video game on his phone. I was ecstatic, and started chatting with him.

    I got his contact information and we started to become friends again. Issac became the kind of guy with a ton of friends, but he’s also dependent on drugs

  • if u don’t get the ok from your partner, do not pursue other ppl while dating them please 🙏

  • i also have mental disorders and they look down on ppl with mental disorders

  • well he does but he feels bad bc he has a bf he has been dating longer.

    sometimes he’ll send the occasional heart emojis if i do first

    “They mostly just type like this.

    Hello

    I’m fine, what about you?

    Sorry, I can’t hang out. I don’t want my boyfriend to be upset.”

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    i’m scared of my boyfriend because he’s dry and doesn’t want to initiate a relationship, should i break up because of the latter part?

    my bf is poly and already has a bf, so he doesn’t want to initiate anything with me. he doesn’t wanna call nor hang out, and he always texts very dry. he’s nice, but i don’t feel loved.

    I’m not doing well mentally though. my gf already ignores me (she and i are poly too) and i feel like i will die if he breaks up (though i clearly won’t die)

    No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    why are abusive people nice sometimes, especially in public?

    there’s some days where she’ll want to talk to me, follow my accounts, say things to me, and then call me an annoying b*tch.

    she’s nice in public, i’m assuming so others don’t think she’s mean, but what i mainly don’t understand is why she talks to me since she hates me so much and did nothing but harm me.

    Rant @lemmy.sdf.org
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    abuser’s/ex best friend’s birthday is tomorrow, but I don’t think I’ll wish her a sad birthday.

    normally, i would, but what point is there? even if she has a bad day, she’s not going to learn her lesson. she has diagnosed npd and a bunch of other mental illnesses (untreated) and cannot accept fault.

    even if she is sad, NO amount of sadness she has will be as large as the damage she’s done, nor will it fix anything at all.

    Rant @lemmy.sdf.org
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    im tired of being treated badly for my mental illness, even when i don’t act out.

    so many people say they support me even if i have autism and bipolar. they say they don’t mind, that they want to help me. they’re lying. they take it for granted, think i’m weird for something i cant control, take advantage of me and abuse me.

    my friend lied about being this very supportive person who believes in equality. she hates me for being bipolar and autistic. she lied.

    a girl broke up with me because im bipolar. she called me a creep and a psychopath.

  • my guardian is controlling as well, he doesn’t want me to have freedom or negative emotions, and i can’t leave to someone else’s house 😞

    it’s okay though!! i have therapy :)

  • “im such a bad person for saying that. i didn’t want to tell you why i hate you because that would make me a bad person too”

    yeah. you are a bad person, tbh. if you hate people with autism, just say that. “disabled people make me uncomfortable” isn’t as bad as wishing them gone/dead/hurting them.

    there’s people who don’t like a group of people and then people who actively harm those people.

    if you don’t like something about someone, you tell them why instead of wishing they died and hating them.

    also, she’s right. everyone does hate me. she hates me, her friends hate me, my bf hates me, my family controls me and “loves me” even though they yell at me.

  • thank you!! i still have to see her, sadly

  • Rant @lemmy.sdf.org
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    my ex-best friend told me life would be better if i died.

    she yells at me for everything. she hits me (not hard) ruins my mental health, doesnt want me talking to anyone besides her.

    she says everyone hates me, that only she likes me. then she said that me not knowing social skills and being mentally ill was stupid and that im a terrible person. she told me i should die.

    she hates me bc i have a disability, she tried to strangle me once and claim it was a joke. i hate her so much. i have to see her every day.

    Lesbians @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    i’m tired of being left and dumped for mostly men, but any gender too. (Rant)

    re-publicado de: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/23181039

    i’m so sick of this. i’m just gonna stop dating people who prefer men because people i love ditch me for them.

    they’re usually bi but then like men more. obviously men are better partners than women to them because they leave me for some dude. i’m so sick of it.

    i’ve never even dated someone who exclusively liked girls, so i’ve never been left for another girl but i’d obviously be liked better by ppl i love if i were a man. (some ppl would dump me for other women tho probably)

    ditched, ignored, dumped. i’m so sick of this. i want someone who loves me and only me. someone who wont break up with me for some dude. someone who wont ignore me and talk to dudes behind my back like my gf. i love my partners equally, im so tired of not getting the same fucking treatment.

    i am done.

    i’m never dating anyone else who already has a partner, ik they prefer the existing partner over me regardless of if they are po

    Bisexual @lemmy.world
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    i have a boyfriend!!

    sooooo… i kinda just got out of a ”situationship” as they call it. however, i (18f) have kind of liked someone (19nb) on-and-off, a friend i’ve known who ISN’T long distance.

    i liked them at first when i was around 17, them 18, but they were already dating so i decided to move on. we started chatting again and i still kinda liked them but didn’t notice, and they liked me too and just confessed recently.

    omg i love him so much!! i have a bf nowwww :3

    Rant @lemmy.sdf.org
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    i’m not religious. stop trying to force me to be.

    stop trying to give me an ultimatum, saying i’ll go to hell or that we can’t be friends if i don’t pray.

    if i’m uncertain that god exists because there’s NO PROOF EITHER WAY for me.

    i’m not a “perfect” straight christian woman like you are, i’m not going to change myself because my looks “tempt” men. i dress for me, not for men.

    i don’t CARE if same-gender relationships are “sins” and you’ll go to hell. there are some pro-lgbt churches. i don’t care if “all women are for is to complement men and they’re inferior and they should only be with other men for that reason”.

    this shit makes me so mad. i don’t have to be religious if i don’t want to be. there’s this one straight christian woman i know and she hates other women it’s so annoying, and she claims to support the lgbt but “doesn’t care about gay/trans rights”.

    omfg shut up, there’s some actual kind christians despite me not being one myself, but these people obviously aren’t.

    if you’re genuinely curious as to whether i pray,

    No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    would getting back with an ex be a bad idea?

    my ex-boyfriend sam (19m) of a few years has been my longest relationship (as i’m still young). he ghosted me and i started to lose feelings for him. however, i still had hope.

    he also “forgot” about me when he would give gifts to other people, wouldn’t mention me under “people he appreciates” but would mention everyone else, and wouldn’t even tell people abt me.

    due to all this, i started to question actually being a lesbian who was only into guys because of comphet.

    however, last night, when he finally saw my messages (he doesn’t use social media a lot), he apologized and said he should’ve done something other than ghost his gf. he agreed that we should break up, and said he was being this way due to mental health problems, and that if we got back together, he’d be a better bf.

    he explained he still had feelings for me and would love to still be friends.

    that’s when i realized that i had genuine feelings for him that were still there, not just comphet. i always loved him and fe

    uá/уá @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    saua ian-núe ón khúu, khúu si LGBT khóm ón óa?

    ni síin, ni khóm nái khúu si LGBT khéen Uá 😊

    No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    uhh… my ex girlfriend and long-time friend is now cishet, very christian, and makes those “i identify as” jokes regarding trans people. would it end up bad for me if i continued to be her friend?

    besides all that, she has an odd sense of humor but is really nice. not only this, but has been my friend since middle school, and i dated her in sixth grade. she has always been christian, but she’s practicing it more and feels like she has to “repent for her sins” and whatever.

    she used to be a lesbian and then genderfluid but now she’s cishet and idk if she’ll understand what i’m going through, i also hope she didn’t decide this due to christianity.

    and the gender identity and pronouns jokes feel weird to me as an enby and a lesbian 😓

    will this end up actually bad for me like those superevangelicals?

    Lesbians @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    what is happening…

    it was around 1am and i was trying to sleep, and suddenly i thought “what if i get back with my ex from sixth grade?” (i’m still friends with her)

    i started to get a warm and fuzzy feeling, so i was like “ruh oh raggy… i can’t get another crush again…”

    she’s straight now, and my tired brain decided it was one of those things where i’d understand if she said no and continue to be her friend but would be like “yeah, why not” if we dated 🤷‍♀️

    i thought that even if i was an immature ass at 12, i could be better and we could try again now.

    however, when i woke up, my feelings completely vanished and i had no desire to date her at all.