Thank you.

He's around, but away from me. Hasn't had contact since I made it clear that I have a legal leg-up on him, so he can't continue to manipulate me. I think he's still with the woman he cheated with, so he's her problem now.

I sincerely hope that his life returns to him what he has given to others.

It was around 6 years ago, at this point. I'm safe now.

I'm lucky he wasn't a smart man! Manipulation is one hell of a drug. Also, drugs are one hell of a drug! I finally initiated the divorce because he punched a hole in the wall. That wasn't the final straw.. it was actually me finding nearly 50 cans of duster (canned air) in the wall that did it.

Yeah, I'm not sure I ever "came back", unfortunately. Dealing with the aftermath is not fun.

But I'm happy to finally have a safe & stable environment of my own now. Peace is all I crave now. I'm fortunate to finally have some.

Oh honey..

I started putting the pieces together during the divorce. Several aliases were given when my lawyer looked into it. Lots of info came out a long while after, though.

Among other things, I found out that he had not been employed where he said he was for a long while, he lied about work "potlucks" in which he "was supposed to bring a dish or a cash donation for food" (he would tell me only an hour or so before these "events"), his therapy attendance, his mandate AA attendance (he had a sponser lie for him in exchange for god knows what), his family experience, his education background, his travels, where he acquired items & appliances, what happened to my pets, etc.

It got real dark. I ran into an old mutual friend after the divorce that I had not spoken to for a looong time. He asked what my ex had "ended up doing with the cat." I was shocked. My cat mysteriously went missing during our marriage, so I asked what he meant. He said that my ex came over and asked what he should do with "an annoying cat that kept coming to [our] house", and they had given advice about shelters and websites where he could give the cat away. There was never a cat that came to our house. Only my cat. I never saw him again.

That relationship was an actual psychological horror. There's soooo much more, but that's some of it.

How about my entire marriage?

No joke, turns out that he was even lying about his name!

Thankfully, that meant that he and I don't even share the same last name, so I didn't feel the need to change it after the divorce.

Nearly every single thing that man told me was a lie.

Not my photos! It's part of an old photo set that's been making its way around the internet for eons.

I'm just a simple classic-internet enjoyer. (:

It's not AI.

Because he is the one who decides

TINY BABY

It's funny in its own weird way! No worries.

I tried to show the game to my then-spouse, because I wanted him to play, too! He didn't want to play """a lame girl game""".

Have a fun marathon!! And keep doing stuff together! (:

It's actually legal in my state to own a crocodile as a pet with no permits or anything, but I don't have the time, space, or adequate habitat for such a critter. Ignoring that Craigslist post was soooo difficult..

My kid is absolutely hurting to have a Giant African Snail, but they're illegal here.

...go figure.

Wow! A double-whammy of misunderstanding both diagnosis! Well done!

Man or woman, I'll trudge through the mud just so I don't have to interact with any human in any conceivable way. 👍

Most men on Lemmy get extremely upset when women voice a general bad experience with men and why women take caution when interacting with / being around strangers who are men.

They actually seem to not even be able to comprehend what women have to go through on that front, so our caution seems overblown and absolutely ridiculous to them. They think we're paranoid, overreacting, or flat-out lying.

Bring up the "man or bear"-thing again on Lemmy. Go on. I fucking dare you. It apparently infuriates the vast majority and you will be dogpiled.

Imagine if Clint & Shane were combined.

It was baaaaaad lol

Lol nah it was the alcoholic. Ironically enough, the two of them were the most alike!

Wet moldy socks were a more appealing love interest.

My ex-spouse accused me of cheating on him.

.....with a character in the video game.

.....because I "clearly love him more that you love me!"

Whenever he'd be upset (for whatever reason), he would snap and say "Why don't you go talk to the person you actually love??" before giving me the silent treatment until he needed something.

It was the beginning of the end.

Don't miss it lol

EDIT: oh fuck, I forgot.. he actually sold our PS4 containing the game/save file completely out of the blue a few months after his first accusation, without telling me first. The game in question was "Stardew Valley". He was a shitty little man.

The more "ugly" and "fat" they can make you feel, the more money they can snatch from you!

And they very quickly change the beauty standard goal posts.

It's a never-ending carousel of horror! 🎠🔥

It's always a challenge trying to find something to make you laugh only to come face to face with the most depressing thing you've seen that day.

I actually made it because I was trying to find memes with my kid, and he was so frustrated trying to find something fun and said "None of this is funny! Now I feel worse!"

I hope that everyone who might need a little pick-me-up can drop by!