Waking up and not having to panic-check my phone has definitely been one of the best parts, ngl
I'm 25 days sober and haven't had anything like this. :( And I have a dull headache 24/7.
I drank a cherry slushie, but I will not drink alcohol today
In the past month I've read The Fault In Our Stars, and Thinking in Pictures. I gave up on The Book of God. I'm working on the AA big book, and the new Hunger Games prequel. Every now and then I'll pick up Buckland's Blue Book.
Wake up around 6 and start the day with a few hours of FFXI, since I'm only able to play on weekends.
Once the dog wakes up we go for a walk and have playtime, feed him and the cats. Then household cleaning and other chores.
It's around noon by then, and plans can differ. Grab lunch, hit the library, go fishing, shopping, whatever. On Sundays I meal prep for the week. If the weather is crappy I might do some more gaming or watch a movie.
Hit an AA meeting then have dinner. Walk the dog again after dinner.
Usually end the day with an hour of reading or journaling.
That's exactly the excuse I used at work, and no one has questioned it. I'm still not strong enough to attend company events with alcohol, so I just skip the whole thing. "I'd love to go, but I'm swamped in work and I can't drink on these new meds anyway so I wouldn't be able to participate regardless. You guys enjoy though!"
The vast majority of the guys in the field fracking are die hard Trump supporters. Wonder how they'll feel about their business taking a massive dip.
My first house was an 800 sq ft cottage - smaller than most apartments. The bedrooms could only fit a Full bed, not a Queen. It had the same number of rooms OP listed and was the perfect size for me. I'm not familiar with a "bungalow" but that's what I'm imagining.
I like the lack of downvotes on blahaj. It helped me break the karma-dopamine loop of Reddit, while still giving the satisfaction of socializing on a board.
I like my HOA, but I live in a condo building. We all pitch in to keep the roof repaired and the common areas cleaned, and the few rules just make life tolerable in such a confined space (quiet hours, for example). I can't imagine what good an HOA does for single-family homes.
As someone in a similar boat, I hope you find the answers you're looking for.
Thanks, I'll give it a shot!
That sounds like it would work for me. Any idea where to get such a strap?
That looks delightful. What's your secret to good fried rice?
Sure, I'll grab some pics after work. Someone above mentioned a shoulder strap and I think that might work. As it stands, I've just been deadlifting it with one hand and carrying it, but it's difficult because I'm so short.
I'm having trouble picturing this. Does it basically add a strap that you put over your shoulder to assist with lifting?
Good idea, but I haven't been able to get it to work safely. The stairs have a lip on them which the tires get stuck on. Getting down has also been very difficult as the bike tends to try to run away from me. If I were taller or stronger I think I could do it.
The stairs are pretty steep so a plank of wood would just slide down. I've been considering engineering something that can loop around the doorway to prevent it from sliding, but I lack tools or expertise to build it.
I've got a Lectric XP 1.0 with fat tires, and it doesn't roll up the stairs - I have to lift it each step. Combined with the weight and my short stature, I've been close to tripping several times.
How are you getting your ebike up/down stairs?
I have a 70lb ebike that I love, but it's been difficult and dangerous to get it up and down the stairs to my apartment's basement bike storage room. The HOA refuses to install (or allow me to install) a bike ramp to make it easier. Any tricks or anything I can buy to accomplish this?
The first time my parents took me to church around 6 years old, I tripped on the steps and broke my ankle. They never took me to church again and raised me atheist. It sucked because I had to spend nearly the entire summer in a cast.
Nonsense, Jamison was on the other side of the country helping me move into a new apartment that day. The guy even bought a pizza and a 6 pack for us afterwards. Truly an upstanding gentleman.
When will upvote counts be fixed?
I haven't been able to see upvote counts since the latest update, and I saw a few other people mention the same issue. Is this on the radar to be fixed?
Any ideas for a spring vacation in NE USA?
I've never taken a vacation, and I'm determined to take on this year in Spring. I'm in Pittsburgh area and would like to bring my dog along (he is too anxious for boarding or a dog sitter), and don't want to put him on an airplane. Any ideas?
The best I've been able to come up with is renting a small island with a cottage on the Great Lakes. My pup could run totally free on the island for a week and live his best life chasing squirrels and swimming. I'm not much of a nature fan, though, so it might be a bit boring.
Considering detransition after 15+ years due to danger and bigotry
I'm an older transguy and "pass" very well but I'm considering detransition due to the dangers of the world. I'm in the US and it's no secret that trans people are being targeted. I've been considering if it would be worthwhile to stop testosterone, don a wig, and play dress-up as a woman until this trans witch hunt is over.
I'm solid in my identity, not depressed or panicked. I've been in many dangerous situations in my life and know how it feels to make decisions strictly for survival. I know I can withstand detransitioning temporarily or permanently if needed. Not being on T and dressing a certain way won't make my identity any less true or valid.
I'm at the age where I really don't care what my outer appearance is or how people perceive me as long as I'm safe.
I could use some feedback from the kind folks here, especially any older transguys.
Disclaimer: no part of this is meant to imply that there is a right or better path for my other trans bros, sisters, and sibl
First date restored my faith in humanity
Good feels rant post.
I had pretty much given up on romance as dating is nearly impossible as an older transguy. I managed to meet a nice geeky guy on a dating site and we chatted for a while. On our first date last night, he handed me a wrapped gift. "I saw this book and thought you'd like it." and it was a book in my favorite genre. "And I got a toy for your dog. I put it in my laundry for a day so he can get used to my scent before I meet him." Bros and sisters, my heart melted.
We ended up having a ridiculous fun time then making out in the snow, and it was super cheesy and cute and romantic.
Don't give up on love! Good folks are still out there. ❤️ Figured I'd share some positivity since the Earth is literally burning.
SLPT: Having trouble dating in your 30s+? Attend a class on Financially Planning for Divorce to meet wealthy people who will soon be single.
Is this considered spawn camping?
Non-perishable food for a well-rounded diet?
My neighborhood has a little free food pantry that I fill weekly. Problem is, I've been finding it difficult to provide a well-rounded variety of foods. Fresh fruit and veg are not allowed.
Any ideas for items I can stock? I try to keep each item under $2 to get the most bang for my buck.
My go-tos are:
*Rice.
*Oats.
*Beans, dried and canned (these usually go slowly)
*Baking mixes, flour, sugar, yeast.
*Canned veggies.
*Condensed soup.
*Oil.
*Evaporated milk.
*Condiments.
*Canned chicken, tuna, and salmon.
*Applesauce.
*Spices.
Thanks ahead of time for any ideas. Can't seem to get the formatting working on mobile but you get the gist.
A friend asked me "Should I treat you like a boy or a girl?"
I was perplexed by the question. What's the difference? They explained: "Should I tiptoe and watch my manners around you or be blunt? Flirtatious or chill? Brag about my sexual conquests or talk about our feelings? When you're sad, do I hug you and buy you ice cream or do we go grab some beers? Should I wonder if we'll ever hook up?"
I'm not sure if I'm more appalled or confused by this mindset. I thought everyone treated their friends the same regardless of their gender identity. Is this just a fringe case of toxic masculinity, or is this really how the average cis person sees the world?
One year since I discovered my partner's infidelity
I was with a man for four years and thought we were going to get married. He was a widower and I fell in love for the first time. When I found out he was cheating, it killed me. I felt my whole self die.
I miss myself. I wake up every day and go through the motions, even try to date here and there, but at the end of the day I am a soulless husk of a person. I've tried focusing on myself - losing weight, exercising, rejuvenating old hobbies, lots and lots of therapy and meds. Nothing helps. At this point I'm only living because I have three pets who rely on me.
I still don't understand why I deserved that. I guess this is just as good as life gets for someone like me.
Dating struggles - I'm only attracted to straight guys
I transitioned ages ago and I'm recently out of a long term relationship. I've been trying to get back into dating, but even when I specify "masc for masc" all of the gay guys I meet are too feminine for my taste. I've been feeling a bit doomed, even sometimes questioning if I should have transitioned in the first place because it would be so easy to find an ideal partner if I hadn't, but the idea of being anyone but my true self is preposterous. Can any other guys relate to this? Any dating tips or specific dating app recommendations?
USA if it helps.
Got electrocuted today
Lowes hooked up a new washer/dryer combo, but when I ran it the water backed up. I went to clean it up and got electrocuted somehow.
My hand is fucked but my heart is OK, so I got out lucky. Spent the whole day in the hospital and I'm dreading the bill (thanks USA). So much for my plans of gaming over the holiday - can't do much with one hand.
The breaker to that room is off and I'm keeping the pets out until an electrician can come.
Advice on improving Plex experience?
I have a Plex server running on Mac OSX. Whenever I want to add media, I remotely connect into the Mac, login to my private tracker, download the torrent, wait for it to finish, then update my Plex library.
I'm hopeful that there's an easier way. I'm imagining a way I can remotely tell the Plex server what I want to watch and it takes it from there. Does such a thing exist?
Without a fridge/freezer for a while. What should I cook?
I'm one person and won't have a fridge for a few weeks as mine died. I can't stomach any more canned soup. Any ideas for small meals I can make with shelf stable ingredients?
When and why did democrats begin supporting fracking?
I was shocked in the presidential debate that Harris gave staunch support for fracking. I was under the impression that democrats are against fracking, and remember people being critical of Fetterman for supporting it.
I also grew up in an area that was heavily impacted by the pollution from fracking. People who worked in the field were seen as failures of moral character who chose profits over the health of their children. How is it that both major parties are now in support of it? I feel like I must be missing a piece of the puzzle.
Found zero waste shampoo and body wash
A small apothecary opened in my neighborhood that makes beauty products. They've been very accommodating with selling me shampoo and body wash in my own reused containers. It's all locally sourced ingredients. I'm new in my Zero Waste journey but it feels great to eliminate plastic from part of my daily routine.
Gifts for my best friend who broke both of his arms?
My bestie broke both of his arms and wrists two days ago. He's in his 20s, a gamer, has a pregnant wife and a young kid. Any ideas for gifts I can get to cheer him up? He'll have no use of his arms for 3 months.
Already got a bidet for him and hooked it up. Looking into accessible gaming controllers, but he said that the pain is so bad rn that even alternative controllers are probably a no go.
Playing videogames without arms or hands?
My best friend broke both of his arms and wrists, and will have zero use for 3-4 months. I'm trying to figure out some way for him to play videogames while recovering. Maybe some kind of foot controller? A mouth controller?
He's feeling miserable from the pain and I know that gaming would take his mind off of it.
Please let me know if you have any ideas.
How to Bypass Bitlocker for Crowdstrike BSoD (fix)
Took me a few hours to figure this out, figured I'd pass it along. Forgive formatting, I'm on mobile.
How to Bypass Bitlocker for Crowdstrike BSoD
Only use this if the Bitlocker key is lost.
From the Bitlocker screen, select Skip This Drive. A command prompt will appear.
Type bcdedit /set {default} safeboot network and press Enter.
Type Exit to exit the command prompt, then select Shut Down
Hardwire the device to the network
Login as an admin account
Navigate to C:\Windows\System32\Drivers\Crowdstrike and delete C:\windows\system32\drivers\crowdstrike\c-00000291-*.sys
Win+R to open the Run menu, then type msconfig and press Enter
Go to Boot
Uncheck the box for SafeBoot
You will receive a warning about Bitlocker. Proceed.
Click OK and you will be prompted to restart. Do so.
Have the user login
Test their access to files
Should I get a firewall appliance?
I have a host name whose dns points to my home IP. I use this for game servers for my buddies. Should I be worried about my home IP being easily accessible like this, and should I get a physical firewall appliance to protect myself?
Servers are running Windows Server 2019 and Mac OSX.
Drop me your best Rice Krispie Treat recipe!
Rice crispies and marshmallows were on sale, but I want to fancy them up a bit.