The reason I ask this question is that it seems like most people who leave Reddit for Lemmy—or the ones who get banned and then come here—got banned for some political reason. So it makes me wonder.

Also, not to mention, the content here is highly politically charged. Actually, I wouldn’t even say that. It’s just mostly political—and extreme.

In your honest opinion, do you think the Lemmy software was created as a place for political extremists to congregate, or was it legitimately made as a social media alternative to Reddit?

What’s your opinion? And what’s been your experience?

It seems like in recent years, I've noticed a growing trend of society, particularly in this generation, looking down on or outright vilifying femininity. Whether it's being labeled as "weak," "outdated," or "performative," femininity is often dismissed or misunderstood.

But why?

There’s nothing wrong with embracing femininity. Being feminine doesn’t equate to lacking strength, intelligence, or independence. It’s simply another way of expressing oneself, and it holds just as much value as any other trait.

Femininity is often about nurturing, creativity, elegance, and emotional intelligence. These qualities are not just valid—they’re necessary for balance in any society. Unfortunately, in an era where hyper-individualism and aggression are often glorified, softer and more traditional traits are sometimes seen as less desirable or even shameful.

To me, femininity isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a choice and a celebration of self. It takes strength to embrace who you are unapologetical

This happened last weekend and I can’t stop thinking about it. My boyfriend invited me to his company’s Christmas dinner and I was excited but also nervous. I wanted to make a good impression so I spent a lot of time picking the perfect outfit, doing my hair, and ensuring I was presentable.

When we arrived everything seemed fine at first. I introduced myself to his coworkers and they were polite if not a little stiff. As the night went on though things took a turn.

During dinner my boyfriend made a joke about my job. I’m an event planner and he works in corporate finance. He said something like “She just plans parties for a living while I’m out here making real money.” People laughed but I felt a lump in my throat. I work hard and I’m proud of what I do so hearing him belittle me like that stung.

I tried to laugh it off to keep things light but then he doubled down. Someone asked me about my favorite event I’d planned and before I could answer he interrupted saying “Probably one of

I started keeping a small drawstring bag in my trunk with backup essentials: socks, a toothbrush, a phone charger, a tiny first-aid kit, and a small blanket. It has saved me (and a few friends) multiple times when unexpected travel or minor emergencies popped up. Having a mini "just in case" kit can turn a potential disaster into a mild inconvenience.

Maybe they're too many lurkers. What do you think? Do you think content creators if they were on lemmy, would make lemmy better?

I’ve noticed that I feel confident and happy with how I look in the mirror, but photos often make me feel completely different. The contrast between these two perceptions is so strange to me. Is this a common experience, or does anyone know why this happens? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Just wondering what's everyone's "NO WAY" in life

I remember spending entire car rides staring out the window, imagining elaborate stories about the trees and cars racing beside me. Now, it's hard to imagine anyone surviving a long trip without a phone or tablet in hand.

Let’s talk about something real for a second—when was the last time you had a deep conversation? Not just some surface-level chit-chat about the weather or who’s dating who, but a real, raw, soul-baring discussion that made you think? It feels like we’re losing the art of that.

Social media has turned everything into soundbites and hot takes. Everyone’s quick to tweet or post something for likes, but where’s the depth? When did we stop diving into the uncomfortable or challenging topics and start just... reacting to everything? We’ve become allergic to nuance, obsessed with being right instead of understanding each other. You ever notice how even when people do talk, it’s all about winning the argument, not learning from the conversation? Like, what happened to genuinely listening without waiting for your turn to speak?

It’s like people are scared to be vulnerable, to open up about the messy parts of life. We’re constantly scrolling, double-tapping, moving on to the next thing instea

currently I’m on a weight loss journey meanwhile most of my highschool class are as skinny as they were senior year (some have blown up like balloons as well) I’m 26 now and I’ve seen classmates and they’re identical to when they were 17-18 years old. Is being “naturally skinny” actually a thing? As in do some people just naturally only consume 1,500 calories per day unconsciously? I know they aren’t working out

I’m trying to find costume ideas that are more of a general idea rather than a fictional character.

Think along the lines of like career costumes. Ideally not a uniform and can still be more casual and even bordering sexy ??I’ve got stuff like tennis player, Chef, Maid, Cat (animals with distinct ears), Sailor, Angel, Vampire, Cowboy…Trying to embody a fictional character just isn’t as appealing to me and I feel like it’s really easy for them to fall flat.

Maybe something I could put a fun twist on, like sleepy _, undead _, like a friend of mine did “queer sexy rave jesus” a couple years back and it was fun and easy without being on the noseIf you have any ideas at all please keep them coming !!

I am a woman and I have experienced an abusive relationship but I LEFT.

I honestly don't even wanna hear it. I give advice based on my personal experience and they just never wanna hear it. I waste my time telling them how much happier they would be if they left & all that stuff JUST FOR THEM TO GO BACK TO THE ABUSIVE MAN. I find it pathetic. I'm sick of having to constantly be empathetic towards this when women refuse to help themselves by leaving. Be stronger and know you deserve better.

If you think you deserve the shitty treatment/abuse fine THEN STAY but be quiet and quit complaining if you don't wanna do better by yourself🙄

Loud fucking people

Some people are just fucking loud. I'm sitting here in Starbucks and some jackass old man across the room is yapping so fucking loud. It's as if he's shouting and the entire fucking room can hear him yapping about some inane topic.

So loud people: are you oblivious to how loud and obnoxious you are? Do you just not give a shit?

I consider people who do this to be trashy, stupid, and obnoxious. Same category of people who FaceTime and watch YouTube and talk on their speakerphones in public places. I have contempt for every single one of you, and I will take every opportunity to be just as rude & inconsiderate to you as you are to everybody around you constantly.

They're just not.