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  • The girl was rude in a situation she didn't need to be rude in. It was a massive turn off. Rude people suck. I'd go further myself and just say people suck, but I do like a few of them....

  • I wish I had better advice for you than what I'll put here. I have Bipolar 2 as well. The lows get so fucking low sometimes. My kids hold me here too some days.

    I tried to get medicated as well, but after going through about 6 and feeling like a different person each month for each med, I was completely done. The last straw was having a full on panic attack while on the meds. I had to call my wife home from time with her friend to take over the kids because I couldn't be around them. I am going to leave out the details, but it was scary.

    Since then I've been raw dogging this mental illness into the dirt. It's not easy but it's better than the meds. Also therapy never did jack shit for me. I don't have trauma and other shit to talk out. I just have fits of 'big sad'. Can't talk that shit out.

    So my advice, and it's going to suck to try, especially if you are introverted, find a community you can be involved in. Find a way to meet people not on dating apps that have the same interests as you. You want to find people that will love you for you, find a place to meet those that are already picking up what you're putting down.

    Second advice is find a way to be happy with no one. When you are happy, even with no one, others will see that and be drawn to it. You can more easily find someone interested in you, and therefore more willing to invest in you, if you can learn to accept yourself and enjoy yourself.

    Third advice, do something to improve yourself. If it's eating healthier so you aren't a waif, try that. If it's gym time, do that. If it's reading more do that. Learn a skill, pick up a hobby, find ways to occupy the time you have with yourself.

    Being idle makes my BP2 shift into overdrive. I have to find ways to fight it by engaging in my own life. Finding someone to love you won't fix that. It won't fix you. And it's not fair to ask someone else to fix you. The best you can do is find someone you can be honest with, and that will respect that part of you and let you lean on them as you let them lean on you.

    Hope this wasn't preachy or finger wagging. I hate typing on my phone and this felt like writing war and peace, but I want you to know, you aren't as alone as you tell yourself. You aren't as hopeless or helpless as you tell yourself. You matter, you are enough, you have a difficult condition, and you have the strength to work with it, you just need to find the courage, and that comes from doing and trying when you don't want to do or try. You won't always succeed, accept that now, but be ready to give yourself another chance and try again.

    I love you as a fellow denizen of this fucked up world, and as a person that shares the same struggles. We can do it. You can do it. I'm sorry it's hard right now. The lows can be so terrible. But please stay with us.

  • MAGAts do. Nobody else. But if I have to choose between some museum artifacts and trying to keep myself and my family safe, I'm putting my efforts to the latter. So you can sit there comfy and judge like some armchair revolutionary, but you're wrong.

  • I'm not advocating for there to not be normal lanes. Both have their use cases and yeah if I have an assload of shit that I can't be fucked to scan, I'll go to a normal lane and deal. But an overwhelming amount of the time, I just want to enter, get my shit, and leave without being hassled.

  • "Wave" Music @lemmy.world
    JigglySackles @lemmy.world

    Listen to This: Sleep Token - The Love You Want (Will it Synthwave? Remix)

    I love the mashup between one of my favorite metal bands and one of my favorite synthwave bands. Works unexpectedly well.

    "Wave" Music @lemmy.world
    JigglySackles @lemmy.world

    Listen to This: The Bad Dreamers - Who You Run To

    Fantastic vocals and great synth work, this song by The Bad Dreamers is another favorite for me.

    "Wave" Music @lemmy.world
    JigglySackles @lemmy.world

    Listen to This: Timecop1983 - Back to You (ft. The Bad Dreamers)

    The Bad Dreamers have great vocals and Timecop1983 is always solid for Synthwave melodies. The two combined make a fantastic pairing.

    "Wave" Music @lemmy.world
    JigglySackles @lemmy.world

    Listen to This: The Midnight - Vampires

    This is the song that got me into the genre. And if you get a chance to see The Midnight live, it's well worth it. They put on a fantastic show!

    "Wave" Music @lemmy.world
    JigglySackles @lemmy.world

    Liste to this: FM-84

    This is my favorite album. Took me ages to get a vinyl copy but we'll worth it.