I am so exhausted.

My older brother has to be the most selfish egoistic person that exists on this planet. When I meet him everything is "fine" he talks like the friendliest person ever, always has a positive opinion about things and can generally talk very well.

My grandpa died a few months ago so my mother and her brother got the inheritance. Since my mother didn't want anything and left it to her brother our state by law asks the children of the next generation if they want to accept or refuse inheritance.

So my mom didnt want it and she told us to not accept it either. It would be 25% for me and 25% for him.

I said sure, fine - my brother was still thinking about it cause we own a small little "land".

Long story short: My brother talked with my oncle before hand and begged to give him the property and he wouldn't accept the inheritance in exchange. I didn't know about the deal and during all this I questioned the land with my mother and my brother as well but my brother kep

I am always wondering and overcomplicating things in life and I have been posting quite a lot of questions here lately because I am just more confused the more I read.

I came to the conclusion that I absolutely might not need a rest day if I have the energy and motivation to go to the gym.

But I also can just quit going to the gym if I need more rest as well instead of just one rest day.

I have a few exercises that I know I can execute with a decent form. Probably not perfect but fine enough to not break me in the future so I just do them.

I feel like I have the best results in this kind of a mixed routine.

One week I do for example Push Legs Pull while moving Triceps from Push to Pull day and Biceps from Pull to Push day. This just feels way better than Chest + Triceps cause I have to lower weight for triceps exercises by almost 50% once I get to the exercise on chest day. Same goes for Biceps. Why biceps on pull day if I could just throw in a rest day after pull day and repeat

Where I am from my salery is quite okay to be honest. I get about 3700 € after taxes (state insurances, health care etc.) each month but I don't see me affording a car anytime soon.

I pay about 1200 € a month on my debt for my house, so I have about 2500 € left. Another 600 € go away for electricity, water, trash, internet, phone provider etc...

Leaves me with 1900 € left for the month. I'd say I spend about 900 € for food and household supply a month.

1000 € I save 500 € for my house for later. 250 € for vacation (3000 € in total a year) And 250 € for car.

It is going to take me about 5 years to save for a 15.000 € car. I don't know how people buy BMWs, etc. I know I don't earn that much but I need a car somehow my current car is breaking down and I got no money saved yet. Only about 1500 € cause I spent all my money on paving (had to be done) and my emergency saving wasn't enough for the bill of the paving and other work on that area around my house.

I only save since 3 years ca

Hey... I weight 76 kg, started at 83,8 kg in december 2024. Am 175 cm tall and eat about 2500 kcal and 1,6 gramms and more per kg bodyweight since december. Haven three days with less than 120g protein.

But my weight training sucks. I stsrted with 7,5 kg dumbbell presses and now I am at 12,5 kg. My barbell incline press was 2,5 kg each side now 7,5 kg so in total with barbell 35 kg.

Dunno what I am doing wrong? Doing Push Pull Leg 6 days a week, once I did PPL UL cause of time.

I feel so bad. Im doing everything I can

Hey I don't know where to post this. I can't find a good sub for this topic.

My grandparents died and my mother is respecting the last wish of not getting anything from them and wants her brother to get it all, which is fine, because she is adopted by her parents sister and will get what her mothers sister has (house etc.).

While this should be easy she could refuse, the issue we are now facing is that it will be passed on to me and my sister.

I told my oncle that I would not accept the inheritance if my sister also refuses to.

Now that my oncle also has a property he promised my sister that she'd get it if she refuses to accept the inheritance. Now I talked with him about it because the property is worth about 15.000 €. He said he would give me 5000 € instead.

Now I don't know what to do. My sister says it was rude to ask him for money because it isn't our right to accept the inheritance and that the property has nothing to do with all this it's a gift from him to her.

Well I s

So I have been doing full body workouts the last months.

I switched to Push Pull Legs recently and it'sgoing quite well. PPLPPL Rest.

What I am asking myself though is do I have to be consistant with PPL so I reach 6 times a week?

What I mean does it have to be Push Pull Legs Push Pull Legs Rest or can I do that one week and the next week Push Pull Legs Rest Push Pull Legs?

Is it also okay to start the week with PPL and if I notice I have no time for 3 more times can I do PPL, Rest, Upper body, Lower body?

If I notice I have even less time, can I do PPL, Rest, >Full Body< Rest Rest?

So basically I should always benefit from PPL if I can guarantee atleast 4 times a week because I can always do Monday to Wednesday. Sometimes work and family kicks in and I cant add another cycle of PPL.

Am I giving this too much thought?

So last week I did PPL PPL Rest. This week I can do PPL and I will do Upper Lower Body on Friday and Saturday cause of work inbetween (coworkers got sick).. what

Maybe someone can give me advice here or atleast confirm if my thought process is correct.

I currently weight 77,6 kg, 175 cm (male) and I am skinny fat. Meaning I am very skinny, have barely fat on my arms and legs but stored fat belly/ chest area.

So I calculated my kcal a day at about 2300 kcal. If I want to gain weight (muscles) with weightlifting I need a 200-400 kcal surpluss.

If I want to lose fat, which I also do (belly and chest) I need a deficit of 100-200 to maintain or gain slowly muscles while workout without losing muscles.

So I need 2200 kcal (maintain muscles, lose fat) to 2600 kcal (gain more muscles, not lose fat) a day to see gains everywhere and fat loss in belly/ chest area?

What is the best approach here? Lose fat in chest/ belly area first meaning going down to about 65 kgs first and then build muscles back to 75 kg or build muscles and lose fat later?

Obviously with the approach of going for 2200 kcal I might see slower muscle gaines but also fat loss, bu

This has impacted my life so negatively I don't even know where to start.

My friends and I started drinking at 17 and went out almost every weekend. Every year we had huge events like festivals (Germany has many) and well those were like 3 days being drunk in a row.

If i could turn back time I'd probably just tell myself to not do it and probably do it again anyways.

I'm getting invested in the gym and it's so good. I wonder how I'd look like today if I would have just been at the gym in my 20s.

Not only that. I wonder how my friend circle would look like cause currently I have no friends I'd consider "friends". Those were all drinking buddies. They still drink every weekend and more and more I realised they are just functioning alcoholics.

And since I don't drink anymore (2 years) I'm basically out.

So I'd say alcohol didn't only have a negative impact on my brain while I was still young (and after) it also hit my wallet, my time for better things (sports).... etc.

Man. Sucks

I go to the gym a long time now but it seems like no one ever teached me how to do proper form on exercises.

Yeah I can watch youtube videos, but it still doesn't feel right.

My gym only has staff with 0 clue besides on machines, so I can't ask them. And I don't want to bother strangers.

My current way to deal with this is go to the gym at 4 am in the morning and hope no one is at the gym so I can just play around without people staring at me.

But then I am afraid to try a dead lift cause if something happens what then?

Was thinking about asking a member at the gym who looks decent to show me everything and I just pay him 50 $ but that seems kind of weird.

I can do a few basic exercises like Benchpress, Lat pulldowns etc. but I'd never squat with barbells or dead lift or anything like that cause it just looks like I'd break my back on accident. But those exercises seem to be the best and shouldn't be skipped (atleast what I read)

I really think my social anxiety is holding me ba

Currently doing Push Pull Leg routine with 5 exercises each day.

Pull: Lat Pulldown, Seated Cable Rows, T Bar Rows, Biceps Curls (Cable) and Cable Crunches

Push: Push Ups, Chestpress (machine), Butterfly (machine), Shoulder Press with Dumbbells, Knee Raises (body weight), Triceps Push Down (Cable)

Legs: Leg Press, Leg Extensions (Machine), Leg Curls (Machine), Crunches (body weight), 30 minute stepper low intensity

Is this okay?

I remeber 2006 I was in the 6th grade, all the world cup songs, chilling at my local lake with friends, ... maybe it was just because I was a young kid.

But now I think a lot about the 2000s.

I was able to download and Listen to All Songs of 60s, 70s, 80s, and the 2000s had great songs too.

Like Linken Park with Breaking a Habit or Red Hot Chili Peppers with Snow.

It was also a time I spent a long time in Azeroth (WoW) but also a lot of time in real life with friends.

Right now at this moment my job is awesome, I earn enough money, have a wife,... but I cant recreate the Summers of 2000s.

I said it in 2015 those were the best days and now a decade later I still say it. The 2016s to 2019s were also great. But not like 2005 to 2009. Something about those years that gives me a cozy Feeling.

Sonetimes I think Corona ruined everything. Nothing is back to how it was pre 2020. People are so confused, lie and cant tell the difference between fake news and Real news, all only on the p

I am not talking about the MRT system. I see that everyday.

I am currently in Singapore and I swear I haven't seen daylight in two days. My hotel is directly connected to this MRT and Mall. I am just underground and everything is so huge down here.

I wonder is this a city under the city?

It was all fun and games two years ago when most AI videos were obvious (6 fingers, 7 fingers, etc.).

But things are getting out of hand. I am at a point I'm questioning if Lemmy, Reddit, Youtube comments etc. are even real. I wouldn't even be suprised if I was playing Overwatch 5v5 with 9 AIs while three of them are programmed to act like kids, 4 being non toxic etc..

This whole place could just be an illusion.

I can't prove it. Its really less fun now.

The upside is I go to the gym more frequently and just hang out with people I know are 100% real. Nothing worse than having a conversation with AI person. It was just an average 7/10 like I am an average 5/10 so I thought it could be a real thing but turned out I was chatting with AI. A 7/10 AI. The creator made the person less perfect looking to make it more realistic.

Nice. What is the point of internet when everything is fake but can't even or only be identified as fake with deep research.

I'm 32 and I know many young people

Hey.

I thought giving inclined walking a try after I heard the hype about it and I am losing weight but it also could be just my change in foods since 2 months.

Either way, l have a feeling I ain't making progress. I started off at 15% incline, 30 minutes and kept my heartrate between 130 to 135. That was only possible at speed 3.5.

So starting: 30 minutes, 15% incline 3,5 speed.

Now after 7 weeks I am walking 60 minutes but didn't change the speed at all. The reason for not changing speed is that as soon as I increase from 3.5 to 3.7 (very slightly) my heartrate goes out of zone 2 into zone 3 (140-145).

Nothing seems to help this problem. 3.7 is basically my limit, no matter if I just start walking and slowly increase or didn't do pre workout. It's always 140 at that speed.

What can I do to progress instead of increasing time on the treadmil to 60 minutes? It's so time consuming and I'd rather just walk faster but a shorter time than longer but slower. My heartrate is limiting

Normally not into this kind of genre (more thrash metal, stoner rock, punk) but this tune is the tune I need in the gym.

Hey!

I am currently doing an upper/ lower body split. So I do upper body monday, tuesday lower body, wednesday light cardio and so on.

While I don't want to switch up things on lower body I want to learn to do pullups but I cant do them yet.

I am currently doing these for upper body:

1. Pull ups (2x) and 8 negative pull ups
2. Push ups
3. Inverted rows (bodyweight)
4. Back extension machine
5. Biceps curls
6. Triceps pushdowns

This I would do on monday. On thursday I'd just do lat pulldowns instead of pull ups and benchpress on the machine instead of push ups. On sunday I'd do some seated cable rows instead of Inverted rows with bodyweight... Maybe even do some back exercise with T-Bar and no inverted rows and no cable rows.

Is this a bad idea?

Wondering if I should just keep doing the same exercises and just increase weight? Seems easier, but it's kind of boring to me.

Heey,

I go to the gym since december. I started at 83,6 kg now I am at 79,4 kg. My goal is about 72 to 74 kg without losing too much muscles.

Right now I cant do a single pull up and I do a upper body lower body split.

Upper body:

• Lat Pulldowns (cable)
• Seated Rows (cable)
• Australian Pull ups
• Push Ups
• Dead Hangs
• Shoulder press (seated with dumbbells)
• bicep curls standing with Dumbbells
• Triceps cable machine

And lower body days I do

Leg press Leg extensions (machine) The other Leg machine that I pull back lol Lunges Knee raises on pull up bar

The wednesday and saturday I do inclined walking at 15% incline and 4 km/h speed for 30 minutes

My thought is losing weight, makes pull ups easier and doing some more bodyweight stuff.

Im scared I will develop disbalance somewhere, am I missing something?

One of my favorite bands and underrated imo

Hey! I finished my nursing school about 12 years ago and worked on a ICU for about two years after nursing school as a RN.

Moved to a different country and now I am working at a facility for disabled people.

I work only nightshift and we have to be awake all night in case emergency but honestly, I never had an emergency. My clients sleep all night.

My base income is very high and in addition I get nightshift bonus, so I am getting a lot of money that isn't taxed at the end of the month either because in this country shift differential (night, sundays, holidays) isn't taxed.

I don't know I am doing this since two years and if I'd lay down on a couch no one would ever know.

Should I keep going or say something? My Nightshift coworkers don't do anything either but they just keep quiet. And if I am honest I think the dayshift doesn't do a lot either. Our clients really dont need a lot of assist... it's kind of weird getting paid for this job.

So I am a beginner (male) in the gym and honestly I am feeling really good. 2 Months ago I started my cable lat pulldown at about 29 kg and was exhausted mid set 2 and went down with the weight.

Now my warm up is basically 35 kg and now I am at 47 kg.

Almost all exercises I increased my weight by a lot and while I don't really notice physical difference besides my body fat vanishing and my strength going up by numbers I am still excited and will keep going on.

I am 80 kg and 175 cm tall, my goal is losing more fat and gaining a bit more muscles but in general I'd say my goal is about 72-74 kg because I want to start climbing again soon.

Now my question of this topic is something else that makes me wonder. My wrists and fingers are so small, I mean really small for a male. I work as a nurse and I use size "S" in germany gloves.

I don't want to but even if I would want to can I actually become a Hulk? Like is that even possible? It seems I would look really weird if I had huge mus