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  • Congrats on coming out and being your true self, that was a very brave thing to do.

    Your mother, like many parents, had hopes and dreams about who you would become as a person. She's now being faced with the prospect that those hopes and dreams are dead, that the person she thought you would become is gone. She's going to need to grieve and from what you've written here it seems that process has started. Shock, denial, bargaining, some level of acceptance. I expect anger and depression might show up at some point. It doesn't necessarily happen in sequence and can cycle too. She's going to need some time to process, but what's positive is she's not outright rejecting who you are, there's room for her to grow.

    My parents weren't hostile when I came out as gay, but I heard similar things - it's just a phase. Are you sure? Was it something we did? Where did we go wrong? What will your life become? Over time they came to accept it and told my extended family (including my very religious Pentecostal grandmother). Everyone is now very welcoming of my wife and my parents are delighted to be grandparents to our kids. I know it's not the same, but there is hope for things to get better, just keep being authentically you.

  • Yeah I'm demi and that bit stuck out to me as well. Like, I've no interest in this guy, ripped or otherwise, but like I mentioned above, the left version of him seems more approachable. I can envision a scenario where it's easier to envisage being with a person based on their 'vibe' even without having spoken to them. It's like a foot in the door in a way.

  • Disclaimer: I'm a lesbian so I don't have a dog in this fight, but I'm not surprised women vote more for the photo on the left. He just seems friendlier and more approachable, someone you would have fun hanging out with, so I guess that anecdotally gives credence to what the author is saying. The photo on the right looks like someone who's a bit too intense, and I say this as someone who is also trying to get somewhat ripped. It's funny because when I'm at the gym almost a lot of times I assume the super ripped dudes working out there are bi or gay, and more often than not I'm right. I know it's judging a book by its cover, but clearly that aesthetic appeals to other guys (who are also into guys).

  • rule

  • I refuse to get a phone without a headphone jack. Mostly because I know I'm inevitably going to lose my headphones, forget to charge them, forget them in my trouser pockets that will go in the wash. The latter has happened at least a couple of times with my current headphones and they still work just fine. Try that with your Bluetooth pair and let me know how it goes.

  • British cooking has a bad reputation, but they make really good comfort food. Sunday roast, yorkshire pudding, steak and ale pies, shepherd's/cottage pie, full english breakfast, pasties, fish pie, beef wellington, scones! I could go on. Sure it's mostly brown and beige food but cooked properly all of these dishes are really tasty!

  • I've saved a few recipes over time, here are my favourites:

    For legs/drumsticks: https://natashaskitchen.com/baked-chicken-legs-with-garlic-and-dijon/

    If I don't have time to marinade overnight: https://www.modernhoney.com/the-best-chicken-marinade-recipe/

    Easy crowd pleaser: https://www.onceuponachef.com/recipes/perfectly-grilled-chicken-breasts.html

    If you have tahini lying around: https://www.thechunkychef.com/tahini-marinated-chicken-buddha-bowl/

    Fajitas: https://www.onceuponachef.com/recipes/chicken-fajitas.html

    I have a couple of tips to improve on pretty much any marinade recipe:

    • Lemon/lime juice: Omit if you're marinating for more than 1h and replace instead with zest. The acid will cook the meat and the exterior will be drier.
    • Brine: I usually wet brine before in a water+ salt mixture (1 Tbsp kosher salt/1 cup water, NOT table salt) for 1h for chicken breast, 2h for thighs/legs, then marinade. If you do this, don't add salt to your marinade. Do not do this if your marinade recipe calls for soy sauce or anything equally salty.

    Also if you want to try fried chicken without deep frying I suggest brining some skin on thighs/legs then trying the following recipe: https://www.thespruceeats.com/southern-oven-fried-chicken-3058647

    It's not exactly healthier but it is pretty tasty. It's even better of you can use ghee instead of butter but that might be harder to get your hands on.

  • I think the fundamental difference between that experiment and the "suicide capsules" vs the death penalty is that in the *former the people going into it are doing so willingly. I imagine people undergoing the same procedure involuntarily will probably resist, hold their breath, panic, do whatever they can to sabotage the process, etc. The reason this method is rarely used to euthanise pets is precisely because of this - the animals get stressed (as many often do at the vet where they need to be for the procedure) panic, react, and it takes way longer than it should as a result.

    Edit: edited for clarity

  • Warhammer 40k @lemmy.world
    Foreigner @lemmy.world

    Why did you pick 40k?

    My son is starting to get into Warhammer and so far he's learned the mechanics of Age of Sigmar, but he still isn't sure what road to go down. Normally he'd go for whatever my brother in law is into (he introduced him to MTG, obviously the gateway drug) but he's not deep into Warhammer yet (BiL was gifted a Necromunda squad) so my son will have to figure it out for himself.

    Assuming most people here picked 40k over Age of Sigmar, I'm curious to know what motivated your choice? He's painted a few random figurines he was gifted, but is now giving serious thought into going further. We'd welcome any tips on where to start!