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  • I had a buddy who teed himself up for your mom jokes constantly. I swung and hit pretty much every time.

    One evening he had enough and blew up. "God, you're such a dick! You must be the biggest dick in the fucking world!"

    "Well, I fit in your mom just fine, so I don't see what the problem is."

  • My spouse who is asleep knows a lot more about this, but off the dome:

    Social Security retirement benefits are an entirely different system than social security disability insurance. SSDI shouldn't be dependent on hours worked, but on disability status.

    A few things to note about SSDI: there are very stringent income limits while on it. You will be severely constrained in your living standards. What you get isn't really adjusted for local cost of living, so you may be alright, or you may struggle to pay rent and eat.

    Initial rejections are the norm. It generally takes two years to go through the appeal, rejection, re-appeal cycle. A good disability lawyer will smooth this out but the time frame is not going to shrink to less than a year. I would not depend on this for a car or school.

    If you are unable to work enough to support yourself, I think it's worth pursuing, but SSDI is designed to keep people from using it as a stepping stone to better circumstances.

    Wish I had better news/advice. Good luck, comrade!

  • Moderated consumption is a valid goal that many aim for- it's the 12-step programs that make this taboo, but their success rate isn't stellar.

    I've been dialing back as I approach forty. I was in a band during my late 20s through mid 30s, and was drinking 2-5 beers a night (25 a week) pretty easy. That's not heavy alcoholic level, but even at the time I knew that was more than was healthy. Now I'm aiming for 5 drinks a week, and have been hitting that goal half the time. When I miss that goal, it's only by a few, so that is still a drastic improvement over where I was.

    The things I try to keep in mind are impact and enjoyment. How am I affected by my level of consumption? (Heartburn, cost, grumpy when I can't have it.) Am I enjoying myself when I do drink? At my height, no, I just wanted something carbonated and malty. Now I do enjoy the drinks I have- and put a lot of intentionality and anticipation into what I select.

    It sounds like you're well on the way to a healthier relationship with alcohol, keep it up! Stressing about the missed goals isn't as helpful as focusing the next one, so don't beat yourself up. You're already doing better than you have, and know how to get where you want.

  • Comradeship // Freechat @lemmygrad.ml
    Farvana @lemmygrad.ml

    knowledge should be free

    But college textbooks are absurdly expensive. Can anyone point me to some options for digital textbooks that don't have stupid drm?