I feel like you're pulling my leg. It's not that hard to understand. I've been dating this girl for two months, but we're not boyfriend and girlfriend. She sleeps with other people, and so do I. We go on dates and see each other. It's not formal, but it could be.

It's not that hard to understand, she and I are getting to know each other and we're fucking, but we're not dating.

good to know and i discovered that i'm a straight gay for pay.

It's incredible, it's a whole new world, lol. Sooo I'm gay for pay too?

that's true??

I don't think about this all the time, I just write about it here. I think about other things too. It's also true that this is almost my entire life. I live with him, I fuck with him, I eat with him, I talk with him, I work with him... it's hard not to think about it.

What? I think you lost the thread. 😅🤣

How could I not accuse you of transphobia if you said that if a man had sex with someone of the same sex he was gay... a cis man and a trans woman have the same sex, crumb...

I recommend that you look up the difference between sex and gender, knowing the differences your argument falls.

I inform you that sex is biological and gender is social. You probably meant to say "if a man has sex with someone of the same gender he is gay" which is true, but there are gay couples of a cis man and a trans boy, just like heterosexual couples of a cis boy and a trans woman... your argument which only consists of "if you have sex with someone with whom you share genitals, it makes you gay" your theory falls apart.

You can be a gay boy and fuck a pussy and it doesn't mean that you are straight.

I don't understand how you don't understand it.

Now I get it, you're not a guy, you can't say things about us if you're not one of us, it's just something you think and believe, but I'm telling you now that the stereotype you have in your mind is completely false, I literally don't know a single straight guy [my entire group of friends who are straight] who refuses a blowjob, no matter where he comes from, he'll always accept if he's horny. And let me tell you that what you're saying is extremely transphobic, a straight guy dating a trans girl is not gay sex... it's straight sex, in your concept of homosexuality you confuse sex and gender.

Being gay is that you like men, that you find them attractive, that you fall in love with them hahaha For you being gay is just having sex? Dude that is very superficial and reductionist.

That is why there are heterosexuals who are afraid to try it for fear of being called gay just for trying it once.

maybe i'll see the movie

I don't think that having gay sex makes me gay, being gay is that you like men, that you feel attracted to a man, it's something that doesn't happen to me. I don't have fragile masculinity and I'm capable of enjoying a blowjob, it's just that, a blowjob, it has no depth, for me it's just a game, a hobby, a way to pass the time and work, because it's my job too.

That letting a man suck your dick is a gay act, yes, I agree, I do gay things, but it doesn't make you gay.

And no, I didn't see Brokeback Mountain

so you're saying i'm not straight?

Yes, if you tell a man he's going to get a blowjob from a woman and then it's a man, that is rape, but if you just tell him he's going to get a blowjob and don't specify, I don't think it's rape. Do you think if a 100% heterosexual man took off the blindfold when he was close to climax and saw that it was a man, would he get up and leave? Or would he keep going until he came? I think absolutely no man would leave.

I understand what you say and I partly agree, but I would never do this with any other man, I do it with my friend who I have known for 5 years and only in the last 2 years we have started doing these things. And yes of course I feel enjoyment and pleasure, to any man, even the one who is 100% heterosexual, you blindfold him and tell him that he is going to receive a blowjob and he enjoys it even if he later finds out that the one who sucked his cock is a man and contrary to what you claim, enjoying it is not going to make him lower his percentage of heterosexuality, I think that measuring sexuality with % is ridiculous.

Thanks for your comment, I don't know what you're talking about, but let me tell you that I specifically know that I don't feel any attraction to my friend other than the affection of friendship. Maybe what I wanted to say was not clear, but I do it for the money, my problem is that I don't know if my friend does it 100% for the money like me and if one day we would get to the point where I fuck his ass, that is something that he genuinely likes because he is bi and he was the one who offered it to me, my problem is that if he likes it and if he falls in love with me that would change our relationship.

I understand what you're saying about the spectrum of sexuality, and yes, it makes sense. But I also think everyone knows where they stand, and in my case, I'm comfortable identifying as heterosexual. What I do with my friend is more of a practical and trusting thing than something that defines my orientation.

Yes, we've talked about how this might affect our relationship, and so far it doesn't seem to be an issue. He knows that for me it's more of a transactional thing, and I know that for him it's something he genuinely enjoys. We communicate well, and that's what's important.

Thanks for the encouragement! And haha, I don't know if the link can be posted here or if it's considered spam. 😉

Thank you for taking the time to write all this, and I understand your point, but I think you're projecting a bit. Me posting or reflecting on this doesn't mean I'm confused or not straight. Straight men can question things too without it changing their orientation.

Regarding labels, I agree that they don't define who I am, but I don't completely dismiss them either. For some people they're useful, and for others they're not, and both are fine.

As for dating him or not, it's not something I'm seriously considering. Yes, I experimented and I liked it, but that doesn't have to turn into a relationship or anything deeper. Like I said before, a mouth is a mouth, and I don't give it any more thought. If I continue with this, it's more for the practical aspect than anything else.

We're very close friends, almost like brothers. In fact, I don't get along with my family, and he's been like a brother to me. What we do together, sexually, is more for the money we make from selling the videos. It's not something that stems from romantic or sexual attraction on my part.

I think about it a lot because he's bi, and I know he genuinely likes getting fucked in the ass. I worry that he might develop feelings beyond friendship, and that will ruin what we have. Our friendship is important to me, and I don't want to lose it over something that, to me, is more transactional than anything else.

I don't know if I had a specific question in mind when I posted this, I just wanted to know your opinions and vent my fears, I don't want my friendship with him to change, it's perfect, and I'm afraid that he might like it, because he genuinely likes gay sex and I'm afraid that he might fall in love with me and that would ruin our friendship just for a few dollars.

Thanks for answering

Thank you for sharing your perspective and taking the time to explain it in such detail! I really appreciate your clarity and respectful approach to talking about this topic. I agree that labels can be helpful in understanding each other and finding community, but in the end the most important thing is to understand and accept yourself.

Your post has given me a lot to think about, and I especially appreciate that you have highlighted that only I can know for sure how I identify. I will take your advice and continue exploring and being honest with myself. Thank you for your well wishes too! 😊