like I knew a male host with almost all-male alters.

We get the feeling that most protectors/guardians etc are actively hostile or feel angry etc most of the time, and the person in our group who does this for us is like that sometimes. However, mostly it is emotionless or has low emotion and we were wondering if y'all/y&/you&/you experience that.

We think the reason they are like this is because it allows us to be more clear, honest and leave the extreme emotion that overwhelmed at least one of us behind.

It has gotten angry before and once very upset when something happened without their consent (it wasn't anything big and got resolved quickly).

So yeah, feel free to let us know if y'all'd/y&'d/you&'d/you'd like.

:)

I've noticed that when I wake up, the alter that usually cofronts is still asleep. This normally would be fine with me, except for the fact that I often have to get up early, and our body can't function well unless every alter in front is active.

Has this ever happened to you? Do I just go to the headspace and shake him awake somehow?

I'm sorry to gush, but he's so quiet and peaceful that I want to hug him. It's honestly so relaxing to see him asleep, although sometimes I accidentally get pushed behind which leads to the body getting sleepy.

Has anyone ever woken up one morning to realize that the alter in front with them hasn't woken up yet? It's very weird and even sometimes leads to sleep paralysis for me.

For us at least, it just happened naturally. I often talked to myself and felt as though there was definitely more than one of us, until one day our friend told us that we might be plural and we realized that we could really relate with the plural experience.

So, how did you figured it out?

Usually, different system members have different appearances. Sometimes, different system members may have different bodies to each other-- even as far as having different gender or species. But with only one physical body, it's hard to represent or tell every members with the same body in physical space. So, how does your system handle that?

How do you tell apart or represent different system members in physical space? Do you only differentiate in headspace-- each members' physical form exist in headspace while the real life self remains the same regardless of who's fronting. Maybe you use subtle cues like arm ring color or necklace. Or maybe you use different clothes for different headmates-- though that would be difficult if you switch front while being outside.

Perhaps it's the different behavior like walking style, gestures, or manners. Or, just through the different personality each system members may have while fronting.

For us at least, we don't differentiate that much physi

Just: We've got a Flowtime EEG headset, and we're recording our brainwaves for system shenanigans now.

How do you manage your system memories?

If any particular headmate fronts at some point, do you treat/feel the memory of that time as theirs, or does the memory belong to the system as a whole. Do you ever feel, "this isn't me, this memory is of another headmate."

We mostly share our memories and we can recall what is experienced by another headmate. Most of our day to day memories are shared and belong to all of us. Though, we firmly know certain memories or events are done by or linked to a certain headmate.

[Content Warning: mentions of transphobia]

Long story short, our persecutor have been trying to repress our transfem host, to the point where she rarely fronted nowadays. Maybe it was internalized transphobia, which sometimes caused us quite a problem.

While she's not the only transfem in our system, I couldn't help but to feel bad that she might felt unwelcome here, in her only safe space. She's also pretty empty and unresponsive ever since she started to disappear.

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You can't use they/them for yourself, they/them is plural.

Us, a plural system:
An image of three green anthropomorphic vegetables from veggietales. The one in the middle introducing themselves, saying "Allow us to introduce ourselves,"

Kon: We made Koikatsu avatars for everyone in our system and took a picture.

Just: Hey everyone, say hello to Emerald.

Emerald: ...I've had a rough forming process.

Just: She managed to un-Descartes herself, vanishing in a puff of logic. It took a couple days for her to recover.

Emily: I've changed my name. This fits better.

Given that different headmates may have different forms (at least in headspace) between each other, these forms may not always align with the physical body. Some headmates may have different forms compared to the physical body; maybe different in height, size, age, gender, or even species.

With that, how do you feel about your physical body in relation to yourself and how do you manage that? How do you handle the mismatch between physical and headspace body?

Note: be careful about mentioning too much personal or identifying informations here. Remember that this forum is public on the internet, so take care and keep everything non-identifying.

For me, I am relatively different but somewhat similar with my physical body. While my headspace form isn't always consistent, it's generally within the same body type as my physical one. The differences are mostly minor, at least for the body.

The biggest differences are with my face and hairstyle, which greatly differs between headspa

We're a system of... God knows how many, mostly shipgirls! Serrice: our stories are.e..complex. So suffice to say, the main people that'll interact here are me, nagato, and winter. Winter: hallo. Nagato: hi!

Just: Hey. Figured we'd introduce ourselves. We're an artificial system with a current population of thirteen. I'm the system originator and debatable host, depending on definition. I like writing, science, and spicy food. I'm also a member of the system's large catgirl demographic.

Cat: First person in here aside from Just. As my nickname implies, yeah I'm a catgirl. I've fully embraced the murder side of being feline, meaning I'm the first line of defense when dealing with hostile walk-ins. On a related note, I'm straight up incapable of valuing the lives of assholes. Aside from that I really enjoy snuggling, helping friends, and hypothetical scenarios.

Titan: I'm an accidental fictive that Just produced by repeatedly self-inserting as me in the six months leading up to Cat's creation. I am a genderless dungeon core, fused to the system's mindspace. I like base-building games.

Hazel: I'm a walk-in that just sort of showed up one day. I don't really have a consistent mindspace

This post is mostly intented for plural systems, but I'm open to anyone responding as well, even if you aren't plural. It's nice to hear from another perspective outside our community.

When you have more than one selves within the same body, it's fair to say that the pronoun "I" may not be enough sometimes. After all, if you share your body with more than one selves, some of the things your body does would technically be done by all of your selves.

For example, as a plural system myself, whenever I go anywhere, technically all my headmates (or another selves) will also go with me since we share the same body. If the body goes somewhere, everyone goes along with it. With that, some stuff about us can't be described with just "I." Think of how I've been using "we," "us," and "our" throughout this post.

So, if you're plural yourself, do you also use plural pronouns the same way we do? When do you use "we" to describe yourself? And when do you use "I" to describe yourself?

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