Can't quite tell the from the OP if you mean kinks you are embarrassed to have or if you mean kinks about embarrassment. To the first, I have a couple kinks that I don't really discuss outside my partner that we have specific toys for. The second not so much, I guess I have a bit of an exhibitionism kink. Being stumbled on naked, but having the person be attracted not disturbed. Pretty basic I suppose, but not something I would ever intentionally pursue.
That's a good idea! Hopefully there will be good sources for the slang there. I appreciate the old school phone sex way as well. I've dabbled there myself. I remember stumbling on a subreddit a while back where people would offer scripts for others to act or act those scripts themselves. Can't remember what it was called though so that was my starting point
Not exactly what I'm looking for. I liked the premise and execution of that short story, and was inspired to write a story also exploring audio recordings. The premise of that story is the bit about two people accidentally inspiring each other to get into it. So no voice acting or anything, I just want my text to be less jarring to somebody who has experience listening to that kind of thing to get off, or making that kind of thing for others to get off to.
So my experience is from the perspective of someone who likes going down and who has had partners with pussies that were insecure about it. Patience is really key. The person with the insecurity needs to feel comfortable to start branching out and experimenting so focus on creating emotional safety for them. Let them know you love the thought, but will respect the boundaries they have set. Once that trust is there you can discuss options with them to lesson their anxiety.
If they are uncomfortable about the taste or smell, ask if a barrier or having the opportunity to shower before would help. Maybe a lubricant or other body safe fluid with flavor could be used to help ease them into it.
Set safe words for the experience so if they get overwhelmed or need to stop they don't feel pressured to let you continue.
Discuss if they would prefer an experience where they guide you or if they would prefer you to take the lead
If the opportunity to shower before would ease their mind offer some shower fore-foreplay to get them excited
Be honest about anything that might bother you, but not judgemental. If you let them know what would actually turn you off they might feel more secure in where they are at. From personal experience, I am fine with most all vaginas, but pee is a turn off for me. I have had two occasions where folks had issues controlling their bladders mid orgasm, but because I was clear and not particularly affronted in the moment, the second time didn't even end that session, just caused a short recess. It might not be sexy to discuss turn offs, but letting your partner know your dislikes how to address them with you should help. Things happen and be sure to make your partner knows that you will be emotionally safe to be around when they do.
Share relevant insecurities of your own, but only if they don't belittle theirs. What I mean by that is if you have body insecurities that you struggle with that they know and are respectful of, express that you would like to do the same for them. Just avoid vague or minor insecurities that might make them feel you aren't actually understanding their insecurity.
Infrequently, but not never? Maybe once every six months or so, possibly yearly. I used to have more, but I remember my dreams less these days so can't be certain its tailed off as much as I think.
Not a fan of the humilation stuff myself. My partner and I are firmly in the stag/vixen label. It's so unfortunate that it feels impossible to find good porn that doesn't mention the humiliation or include racial elements. Nothing makes me nope out faster than all the racist cuck porn out there
I agree that its pretty shitty that people do that. You shouldn't be down voted for them not reading the title. A possible innocent explanation is that the dick pics aren't particularly good, I have heard anecdotally that a lot of people who like penises would be happier if the angles and settings of many dick pics were better. That said I don't really believe its innocent, more likely internalized homophobia that hasn't been super processed.
I think that only really applies when viewing from lemmynsfw. Other instances will still record upvotes and down votes on lemmynsfw posts but lemmynsfw itself doesn't view them. At least that is what I read a while back.
I've had a few experiences. First I went to a private gloryhole which purported to be a woman, but may very well have been a catfish. It caused me some distress at the time because I wasn't really comfortable with being bi yet. Did still get me off though because I have a kink for anonymous encounters and people acting slutty.
Later when my fiancee and I were dating we went together so I could watch them suck someone at the hole. They sucked two people and then we fucked for a peeper. One of my favorite memories of our early exploits. We tried again years later, with me in a different booth to come in and put my cock through the hole later, but the first guy to enter the booth next to my fiancee's kept pushing to pay them money to come to a gangbang somewhere else, so we left and haven't really been back.
I'm really interested in trying again at a better locale. An actual swinger club with better upkeep would be ideal because the fantasy is incredible but the years of prudes shutting smut shops down has made the scene way worse at stores.
As a giver, my preference is mouth or face, followed by in, followed by titties or ass. I like cum play so seeing a partner playing with or swallowing it after is really hot, and if I get a messy cummy smile its even better
I feel that downvotes serve an important purpose both in keeping out spam, but also in preserving the many-niches architecture common in porn. Without downvotes even more work will be put onto mods in order to make sure the content posted is relevant to the communities its being posted too. Take c/Hotwife which has recently had a few postings that have 0 to do with hotwifing. Allowing downvotes is an imperfect solution, but I think an important one.
My partner and I are in a Stag/Vixen dynamic, so the humiliation aspects of Cuckqueaning is not really for us. In a previous relationship I had a casual sex partner who liked giving head, and she always tried to get me to compare her to my ex which made me hella uncomfortable and led to me no longer seeing her. I just don't like putting people down in that way. More passive degradation, like making the cuckquean eat a load out of the cuckcake I like though, so long as the cuckquean gets off on it too
My partner and I had a bit of an anal night a week or so back. I incorporated a little orgasm denial game into the scene as well, after I had begun playing with them and getting them close, I put a video we recorded of them giving a third a blowjob and told them that they weren't allowed to cum, until they had made him cum in the video. I made them struggle to contain it and because I am very familiar with the video when it was getting close I played into their praise kink by telling them it was a good thing they were so eager to please and had finished him so quickly. After that we put away the videos and stepped up the anal play with toys until we had some just the tip anal sex.
Other than that I have been working on a bit of an erotica featuring us for them to read.
I tend to go for gif content from small creators. My tastes are a bit specific and not well served though. I like captioned gifs, but the ones I've been seeing lately are so godawful I've been rethinking my sources. That is my go to for a "help me get to sleep wank," but if I'm craving deep satisfaction it is my partner every time. We have a dynamic where we like to record and its so much better than anything I could find online.
Can't quite tell the from the OP if you mean kinks you are embarrassed to have or if you mean kinks about embarrassment. To the first, I have a couple kinks that I don't really discuss outside my partner that we have specific toys for. The second not so much, I guess I have a bit of an exhibitionism kink. Being stumbled on naked, but having the person be attracted not disturbed. Pretty basic I suppose, but not something I would ever intentionally pursue.