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Just a pansexual person from the US (PA) who loves crossdressing, chastity, et al! Owned by my Goddess but free to chat 😚

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  • Well the best thing I can say is to start at Pride events/specifically queer events. I know it'll still be tough but knowing you'll be in a supportive environment is helpful. I think it's helpful to put on a bit of an "I don't give a fuck" attitude when doing it (even if that attitude is fake lol). "I am not dressing for you, I'm doing what makes me happy, I do not care about your opinion". I know that's easier said than done, but maybe something to work on for ya. Also you are spot on re: challenging shit. It's scary, especially right now in the US.

    Definitely correct on the supportive partner! But I think you could also get similar support from a queer platonic friend, especially in person. That sounds like a reasonable perspective shift to me! I fully support you working on that, always here if you want to chat about it 😊

  • I do understand what you're saying on terminology, yeah. As much as we may want to use better language, sometimes it's not the right call. Really interesting read on that post you linked!

    Well first, very very glad you realized that about yourself! Happy to have helped slightly. You explained yourself well, totally understand. And I think we're pretty much on the same page with a lot of this, our kinks line up pretty damn well. Having a partner who accepts chastity (among other things) is fucking amazing, and I truly hope you get to experience it soon <3

    Ahh yeah, I get you there - I don't remember the exact term but there is a concept of a "non-transitioning transgender person" or like an "internally trans, externally cis (or close to it) person", especially people that intend to stay that way, I think that's similar to what you're saying. Either way, I hope that the world shifts to where you're able to transition if you want.

    Definitely not only kink, nope! I'm still trying to figure it all out but I have dressed androgynous/femme out in the real world a few times. But yeah, still figuring things out in that regard!

  • Sorry, by "locally uploaded" what exactly do you mean? I tried to upload one here (to /c/sissychastity ) if that's what you meant and got the following error:

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  • Chastity: Totally and completely with you there. Never want a PA, tempting as the idea is. I also do just during the day for chastity for sleep quality reasons but I hope you can find your way to wearing it to sleep to <3 definitely right on silicone lube being good for the ring!!!

    Nails: Hellll yeah, girl! Love to hear that. Show off that pedi some time!

    Humiliation: I think we're in pretty similar boats here, apart from me not being trans. The "beta" term is tough - I hate how it's used politically and by total shitheads, but otherwise I really like the term.

    Completely understand the idea of expression being restricted by safety - I typically don't paint my nails or do anything femme if I'm going to be in a more rural area y'know. When you say "this is what's humiliating to me", do you mean the idea of shrinking your penis?

  • For my answer: humiliation was an aspect of it early on for me, whether I was conscious of it or not. I still definitely love humiliation, but honestly I don't want to be humiliated for dressing femme. A big part of that is the inherent misogyny of that idea of "oh, it's humiliating to be a woman" or "oh it's humiliating for a man to dress like a woman!!" y'know. It's not sexy to talk about, I know, but perpetuating misogyny and the patriarchy is even less sexy.

    So now I love the aspects of serving hot people, being happy to be a slut, being happy to look so hot en femme, etc.

  • 😍😍😍 so happy for you!!! And so hot!!!!

  • Thank you!!! ❤️

  • Right?? And they'd probably look great on your butt 👀

  • Gorgeous!! Would love a pair like that, where did you get them if I may ask?

  • I hope you get to date people that fit with you better soon ❤️

  • Definitely agreed! It took me a lot of practice to get anywhere near comfortable with another person, too. I tensed up so much when another person was involved. I haven't done it with anyone other than a couple romantic partners yet though, so not sure how it'll go once we meet the right person...

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  • Looks delicious to me 😍

  • Be still my beating heart 😍

  • We're definitely in similar boats!! Always appreciate your perspective ❤️

    But yeah, hard to take the feminist hat off 😅 That's a big part of why I try to mostly post positive stuff when it comes to captions or anything. And we haven't even touched on the issues of racism that pervade multiple kinks, including some sissy stuff...

  • Always a tough question if I actually am a sissy y'know. I like some aspects of it, for sure, but I do think there are some who tread too far into misogynistic territory ("oh it's humiliating to be a woman!!!!") which is Real Bad. But the idea of being a subby femme slut to be used by others for pleasure is what I'm here for 😅

    As for the how: I think it coalesced around a few different things over the years. My love for anal led to a love for chastity in the pursuit of the elusive prostate orgasm. I've always loved power dynamics in sex and being a sub suits me, generally. I had the classic "girlfriend left a pair of panties here, guess I need to try them on... why am I hard?" experience that was a catalyst, though it took me a long time to accept that.

    As for the queer aspect: I've had those thoughts since I was a teen. Part of the reason I had so much trouble coming to terms with it is that I'm not really romantically interested in men. So for a long time I was like "ah, I don't wanna date a dude, that means I'm straight". Luckily I eventually realized that I can want to have sex with dudes (and anyone else 👀) without dating them and now I'm a proud pansexual.

  • I believe Cherry Keeper is still based in the EU/their manufacturer is. I haven't tried any after they had a manufacturing shakeup but the old ones were good, and the amount of size options/special options is wild.

  • If you want to go expensive, Kink3D Cobra is amazing to me. For less expensive with lots of customization, Cherry Keeper is the way to go. I'd just say pay the extra money to get the smooth finish with those, will make your life much better.

  • Yes, please!! 😍

  • I volunteer to be the "man" if anyone wants 😘