I was u/DykeSupremacist, a user who moderated various NSFW lesbian subreddits. Ask me anything.

Before I begin, I should warn you that this is going to take around seven minutes to read. I’ve been reluctant to talk about this not only for its length but also because mainstream “lesbian” porn has a reputation for being fake, exploitative, and fetishistic (technically all problems with porn in general, but that’s another story). If you are disappointed or disgusted to learn this about me then I’ll understand, but today I am primarily concerned with talking about my experiences as a Reddit moderator than talking about the porn industry.

You may not believe this, but I was almost famous several years ago when I was running a NSFW account on Reddit. I started out contributing to and later moderating one subcommunity that I liked (r/lesbianasslick), and eventually I was moderating umpteen other subcommunities dedicated to all-women pornography. Some of them included r/BBWLesbians, r/lesbianboobs, r/lesbianmassages, r/lesbianoral, r/Lesbian_gifs, r/ExoticLesbians, r/interraciallesbian, r/lesbianvariations, r/Rule34lesbians, r/yurigif, and others. Nearly all of them flourished under my care, and to make matters even better, I accumulated 6,969 followers by July 2021. I mean, I was starting to become a big deal over there!

At first I enjoyed it: I had fun restyling the subcommunities to make them look gayer, and I loved the idea of maintaining my own little empire dedicated to all-women pornography. It was fun contributing to the subcommunities and seeing what others shared. Sure, it was kind of boring repeatedly deleting duplicate content as well as purging the subcommunities of spam, but for a while I could tolerate that task.

Best of all was the fan mail that I received. Although it happened sporadically, I did get a few direct messages from women praising me for my contributions, and I loved that. Getting fan mail from somebody else once was okay; getting fan mail from women was absolutely delightful. I might have even kept my account if only I had received more fan mail from women.

However, as time went on I was taking more and lengthier breaks than I used to, and when I would return after a week or so of inactivity, there were scores of unreviewed threads that I had to approve; almost no-one ever helped me when I was doing janitorial work. Sometimes subjecting all of these threads to review could take nearly an hour!

At times I had to deal with users who were intentionally disruptive, too. For example, every other week I had to review reports that looked exactly like this:

It's involuntary pornography and i do not appear in it

Mildly amusing… previous to seeing it umpteen thousand times, that is. Seriously, don’t tell the same joke over and over again when you send reports, especially when it wasn’t funny to begin with. It’s fucking annoying. In fact, if I were you I would not send joke reports at all. I am sure that some people do that only to make us laugh, but it can easily just sap our enthusiasm for doing our jobs, and you do not want that.

That was not the worst part, though. Occasionally, somebody would also ‘bite’ me for enforcing the rules, like removing a submission because a dude was in it for a couple of seconds, and I had to suspend somebody who whined about ‘black chicks’, which only made him belligerent.

Another annoyance was the excess of douchebags writing ‘SAUCE?!’ (unfunny slang for ‘source’, which some users said too) in the comment sections. I don’t know why they needed the sources so badly, but most of the time I tried to provide them anyway, and I tried to include the ladies’ names in my thread titles whenever possible. I was so tired of these requests that I started providing the sources preemptively. There was one occasion, though, when a requester snapped at me in private for being inactive for so long:

Here is some friendly advice: do not insult service workers, especially when they are giving you a free service. This guy was very lucky that I shrugged off his insult and answered his request anyway, but I can assure you that almost anybody in my position would have responded much, much differently (if at all). I’ll let you use your imagination to guess how they would have responded.

What frustrated me above all were all the simpletons wasting their money on Reddit’s frivolous ‘rewards’ instead of spending that money on me. I set up a Patreon account in a vain attempt to redirect the money, but almost nobody subscribed to it. People kept giving me these useless rewards instead of something useful.

That really irritated me because I was a volunteer who had to do a lot of work, some of it unpleasant or disgusting, to keep my subcommunities in good shape, and I was getting almost nothing useful in return. In contrast, Reddit had more than enough money yet did hardly anything besides keeping the lights on. Other than enforcing copyright laws as well as very slowly banning spambots and maybe a few other accounts, they had no involvement in my subcommunities.

The last straw came in late March 2022 when several users reported a clip with a transgender woman in it as ‘off-topic’. That was when I finally decided that I had enough: I deleted my account, and consequently, the administrators deleted nearly all of the subcommunities that I moderated, since I was the most active moderator (and often the only moderator at all) in all of them. My only advice to Reddit was to delete their website, which—needless to say—they left unheeded.

I didn’t know what to do about the clip with the transgender woman. I could have either deleted it or ignored the reports, but either way, I was going to piss a lot of people off and I simply did not have the endurance to deal with the potential drama that would result. I was exhausted. I was done. And now, three years later, I am finally telling my story in public.

I have to admit, I do look back on those days with a certain level of nostalgia. They are almost enough to make me contemplate starting a NSFW Lemmy instance dedicated to all-women content, but I doubt that many would be interested in that. Hell, I don’t know if I would be interested in that.

And that, in a nutshell, is my NSFW account’s experience on Reddit. Feel free to ask me anything.